This is so hard. I don't know whether I'm just confused about a few things in my life or whether I do have a problem, low self-esteem.

For the last 3 months I haven't been happy. I wake up feeling only half-heartily about things with no real motivation. When I go to bed at night I feel miserable and sad. I cry at least every couple of days. More to the point, I feel as though I'm not going anywhere in life. I just sit here day by day watching everyone else whilst my life continues to sink.

I have a job that refuses to give me hours. I have asked them repeatedly to give me more hours but three months on, I'm still getting only 7hrs a week. I can't survive on only $80 a week. By the time I take out petrol money, food, etc I can't do it. More to the point, I'm bored staying at home. I have nothing to do, to wait out the time. I want to start my career but what I want to do I have no idea. I've been sending of resumes to different companies these last 3-4 weeks and nothing. 24 different places and still nothing.

My family sucks. My parents say I'm a disturbance to the family, I'm this I'm that. My twin sister and I don't talk anymore. I've lost a couple of good friends. Ive put on weight so that now I'm as big as a house and my boyfriend, well we have our good days but we also have our bad days. His leaving too for Italy in a few weeks time.

Everything I use to have in my life is gone and I don't know what to do. Whether I even want to changes back to how it was... help

In general, I think I'm unfit, fat and boring. I can't even make my boyfriend laugh anymore. I feel like a loner and I don't know. Everything in my life at the moment sucks and I don't know what to do about it.

It happens, but you have control over your life and you're the one who can make a change.

It's not easy to get back on track, but you have to make an effort and do something.

Make a change! Do something different! Find something to do, get involved into something that you might enjoy and something that would be rewarding to you. I'm thinking about volunteer work right now, but you also need to work more hours. Try to think it through and find a solution. You sure can do it.

Living this way will just get worse and it won't lead you anywhere.

I wish you all the best and good luck!

hello . :)

In general, I think I'm unfit, fat and boring. I can't even make my boyfriend laugh anymore. I feel like a loner and I don't know. Everything in my life at the moment sucks and I don't know what to do about it.

^ that is exactly how I feel! We have something in common. I definitely have low self esteem, I'm shy all the time and I get nervous easily. I feel as though I'm a failure and everything else.

but just listen to the above answer because I don't know how to help it myself sorry.

please don't give up though!

don't treat yourself bad, look towards the positive things about you... not the negetive!

I agree with the ladies here... the situation maybe identical... fat/unfit but boring... not even remotely. And that's because I keep creating newer situations for myself all the time-with plants, with cooking, with painting, with dogs, and now even contemplating moving to a different part of my country- on a clean slate. If you are boring for yourself, likely you are boring for another.
But stop feelign sorry for yourself. You are not rite now in the blues (am a constant traveller in that land too, thanks to certain illbehaved chemicals) but this way will ensure a place for yourself there. Stop rating yourself so much and also living this relative life of what you were yesterday or three years ago. This way the world wouldnever progress if we had one eye on the past. Just start a new relationship in your life-but NOT with another human for god sake- maybe plants, colors, astrology, pets best of all-YOURSELF. Go for a walk with yourself and have a chat with the trees that grow along the road. Nature is all the time communicating with us- if you care to listen. Listen to the wisdom of everything -and soon you will listen to your own innate wisdom too. There will be no looking back then... hopefully

I feel the same way. I think my problem though is I'm just so different from everyone else that I don't fit in with them and therefore have nothing to talk about. Also I'm a walking contradiction so that can't help much. I don't bore myself just everyone else... lol. I also get nervous easily and am very shy and quiet... low self esteem sux! I've tried a lot of things to change it but nothing works, hope you ladies have better luck in the future than I have had.

Thanks guys for the advice. I still feel down at times and am still fighting with my boyfriend. BUT I also just got a new job in a lawyers office where I'll be working 8-5 Monday to Friday. This is the change I've been waiting for, holding on to, for so long. This will be a new start to my life and hopefully everything else will fall into place.

I hope for all of you out there, that things will change around too
Take care