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    I just want my girlfriend to love me again, I love her but she doesn't love me anymor

    Asked Sep 29, 2009, 05:14 PM — 34 Answers
    3 moths ago, I broke up with my girlfriend for no reason at all. And for the past 2 months she tried and tried to make me go back to her. But I didn't give her a chance. That was the biggest mistake in my life. And then as time passes, we just don't get along anymore, and I keep pushing her away and yelling and being emotional towards her all the time. But last week, everything just suddenly change, I talked to her again and talked and talked and talked about how much I love her and I want her back. But then she unexpectedly told me that she doesn't want me anymore and she doesn't love me. She said she moved on and said I should too. I don't know what to do:( I want to be with her no matter what. I don't care if I wait 1 year, 5 years, oreven 10 years.. I just love her so much with all my heart. I haven't felt this feeling before. Help me. And need advice because this is my first time being truly in love. I know there's a saying "If u love someone let it go, if it comes back then its meant to be, if it doesnt then its not" but I just can't get rid of this feeling for her. She even told me to promise to love her FOREVER no matter what happens.. To be honest, so I can give you guys a starting point, we dated for 1 year and 3 months, but during those months, we there was a lot of fights, most of it due to suspicious and jealousy, yes I get jealous but I plan to change. We even fight over little things, most of it is my fault. But I just don't get though, she didn't break up with me in those 1 year and 3 moths.. so I believe its true love. Until I made a mistake.:(
    Plsss I need advice on what to do, I don't care how long I'll wait..

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    Sep 29, 2009, 05:36 PM

    Talk to her and be honest. Ask her if she's willing to give you another chance. Tell her that you will try your best this time around. Also, if this is true, let her know that you intend to marry her eventually if everything works out between you. (relationships should be with marriage in the future- and in my opinion, you should only date with the intent on marrying and seeking your future spouse. It's either marriage, or break-ups there's no other option.) If she decides to give you another chance- maybe you guys could take counseling (me and my fiancé are in pre-maritial counseling, it's the best! We learn so much about how to resolve conflicts, etc.) If she decides not to take you back, then it's best you move on, and try your best at moving on. If she comes to you one day wanting you back, then you'll be pleasently surprised.
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    Sep 29, 2009, 05:47 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by jaime90 View Post
    Talk to her and be honest. Ask her if she's willing to give you another chance. Tell her that you will try your best this time around. Also, if this is true, let her know that you intend to marry her eventually if everything works out between you. (relationships should be with marriage in the future- and in my opinion, you should only date with the intent on marrying and seeking your future spouse. it's either marriage, or break-ups there's no other option.) If she decides to give you another chance- maybe you guys could take counseling (me and my fiance are in pre-maritial counseling, it's the best! We learn so much about how to resolve conflicts, etc.) If she decides not to take you back, then it's best you move on, and try your best at moving on. If she comes to you one day wanting you back, then you'll be pleasently surprised.
    But she said she doesn't want me anymore. She even told me that I was the one she wants to marry. I don't know what to do its hard. We even promised. I know I should move on, but in your own opinion, do you think its worth it to try?. it doesn't matter if I have to wait, I just want to be with her. I love her so much. Maybe I can win her heart again if I change and prove to her that Im a better person and I'm capable of making her happy again.
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    Oct 26, 2009, 06:54 PM

    You can always try but in the process do not try too hard! It will only ruin it. I think you should let them know how you feel and what you want and give them time to think over it and do not be too pushy.
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    Nov 16, 2009, 01:35 AM
    Love never hurts when it's always there for us, but it's when it goes away that we want it back.
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    Nov 27, 2009, 12:08 AM

    harslord don't push her. If she has told you she's moved on then you need to respect her feelings. Even if you think there may still be hope, you need to give her space and then see if she comes back in her own time. The worst mistake I made is telling my man how much I loved him when we split. It made me look desperate and weak and these qualities are very unattractive in a person!. you were with her for quite a while so its bound to be hard especially if you both think it was love. Those sort of feelings don't just disappear. It takes a lot of time and strength to get over it completely. If you are willing to wait then you may get lucky and she may realise she still feels for you and wants to give it another go. For all you know she could be playing hard to get and likes the fact that its you chasing her this time instead of her doing all the work. However you cannot live your life hanging around forever. If she still doesn't want to know after the next couple of months, then you need to think about letting go. 4 your own peace of mind. Hanging onto something that isn't there anymore is soul destroying and so destructive. If you care about her then you will want her to be happy and vice versa. So let her know how you feel then leave the ball in her court. That's all you can do. This is out of your control now, you just have to stand back and let her figure it out for herself. X
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    Nov 27, 2009, 02:42 AM



    You were together only 15 months, and during the entire time as you said, you were both fighting, mostly about your suspicious and jealous nature.

    That alone is the death of a good relationship. She is probably realizing that living without you being jealous and suspicious, and living without the arguing, is giving her a taste of freedom, and she likes it. Who can blame her really.

    Im not saying you are a bad person- far from it. I absolutely believe you are sincere in wanting her back.

    You may wish to speak to a counsellor, and see if you can understand better, just what being jealous and insecure does, and how to change that thinking. If she sees you making that effort, you have a much greater chance of getting her back.
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    Feb 25, 2010, 05:21 PM

    I think that you should at least try to move on. Date other people and if you still can't move on then just tell her you tried to move on but you just can't live without her.
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    Feb 26, 2010, 02:49 PM

    Sounds like your relationship has been a long and rocky road. I think it's great that you can admit that you have been wrong and know you really love her, but it may be too little too late. May be time to move on!
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    May 17, 2010, 06:20 PM

    You cannot force someone to love you. Nor can you make an unhappy bird sing. As Mark Twain once wrote 'The elastic heart of youth does not stay contrained in one shape' What he's saying is time move's on and you're just trying to hold it back. You have to let go of the past to ever have a chance in the future. Your life has a limit and you're wasting it begging for someone who's living their life to its fullest. Forgive, forget, move on. It's the only path besides the path of pain which you've already started.
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    May 27, 2010, 09:05 AM

    This is a question because I was the same as you from like 3 months but thank Allah we are back now .
    First : I want you to be sure that this feeling I really love
    Because sometimes this feel you feel now is because she left you and you don't like someone to leave u
    Second if you really love her so don't make her feel like you can't live without her and she is the last girl in the world and she is the only girl in your eyes . The girls don't like that
    Now I am back to my girlfriend , but she left me fromlike a year ago and I tried asked and cried to her to be back to me I promised her I will marry her ,but she said no and then I left her and I didn't even ask about her and I deleted her from Facebook and everything . After like 3 monthes she came to me and said hi how are you bla bla bla and then she said I want to be friends and from here the story stared again but now I don't feel she love me like be4

    So if she will be back to u... u have to be sure that she love you more than be4

    I am sorry because maybe my English is not good because I am Egyptian
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    May 31, 2010, 04:48 PM
    :confused:Okay, look dude. You gave up something, and when that something gave you a second chance, you gave it up. Multiple times, you gave her up. You don't deserve her. She's moved on evidently, and you need to as well. You made a mistake, as you admitted, but this one you can't fix, unfortunately. Just don't let it happen again. If you get another good one, you'd best hold on to it as best as you can. But as far as this one is concerned, you've got to move on. Apologize to her, and if she eventually takes you back, don't mess up again. Other than that, you shouldn't count on it.
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    Oct 3, 2010, 03:07 PM
    Buddy I am in the same situation I dated this girl for 2 and half yrs.. we almost had a live in.. but as I was in college and she was with me and she was in my class.. we used to see each other the whole day and I got lost and took her for granted in a way that I used to be busy chilling with my friends and she used to sit and wait for me.. she never told me this.. and I never realised.. even though I loved her with all my heart and never cheated on her or never even thought of it.. but I made my own set of mistakes and she left me.. and I got desperate and pleaded for almost a yr.. yeah that sucks.. I fell in my own eyes.. and I am sure I must have fallen in hers.. yes I was desperated for her love... because it was truly the most beautiful thing... but now as its been almost 1 and a half yrs.. I still want her back.. I don't want to date anyone else.. I don't want to be with someone else... yes I still love her and love for me does not leave... if you truly someone.. u always will.. no matter what.. but don't ruin yourself thinking about her.. I did that.. and its taken me a while to be in sync.. but I am much better now... still in love.. but stronger.. and I don't tend to call her or tell her anything.. I have told her enough shown her enough.. even though she told me she does not love me.. I did what I had to.. to let her know that I made a mistake and that I really love her and do absolutely anything for her... if she still does not feel the same then.. I have to let her go and pray that she finds her way back.. tht what I do I pray.. and I live my life... :) I don't know if I will find someone better or not.. but she was the one I loved.. and no one can take that love away.. no one..
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    Jan 15, 2011, 10:31 PM
    You said I don't know what to do with a sad face... but your answer was in your reply... she told you to get on with your life because she did... and that's what you need to do.seems to me that you are a little on the immature side... nothing lasts forever except for fossils.

    Women DON'T like it when men yell or be mean to them or push them away... that's not love.who wants to aruge and fight everyday of their life?no one... I think you need to find a life of your own and grow up a little... good luck

    Jeje/30/lez f/usa

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    Feb 18, 2011, 01:39 PM
    Call her and meet up. Just express your feelings to her.
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    Jul 6, 2011, 08:43 PM
    I think you should just... let her go, I know it's hard, really hard I mean but if she doesn't love you anymore... what can you do? I know you'll feel bad but think of this... ¿was she really worth it? I mean and if she was... ¿does she think the same thing about you?
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    Jul 23, 2011, 11:48 AM
    Hey man this is anil I did the same mistake like you but I didn't leave her I pleased her requested her... begged her for the love.. this is my 4th year love man.. try to console her.. dont give a gap that is a big mistake you should pull up till she get to you request... I also doubted did many mistakes in this four years we have break uped for many times that to for 1 day or max 2 days... but all the mistake was mine happened still we love lot! we are happy we are together.. try and try you will succeed man sure 100 percent try your best... all the best you will get your girl back man!!
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    Aug 23, 2011, 03:12 PM
    Hey listen up man express to her how you feel say things indirectly to her by mentioning you goals in life help her to relize as much as possible that you and her are meant to be together. Prey and ask God to forgive you for all wrong things you said and done to this women. Don't repeat the same things over and over she would make you suffer than. Most of all stop being jealous toward her.
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    Sep 6, 2011, 01:57 AM
    First i looked her a friend. But she talked about me and she touched my body.after one month i really love her.but she start her love was act for a friendship.one day she absent to the class and i talk about my other girlfriend i love her.i miss her...
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    Sep 6, 2011, 02:07 AM
    Thank you.but i don't leave her.because she is my sweetheart...
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