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    Feb 24, 2010, 09:38 AM
    My husband always tells me to
    My husband hates when I express ANY emotion other than subdued voice and prefers no opinionated responses to whatever he says.. What do I do to deflect this and explain that emotions are human.. I mean to him.. im too happy, or too sad, or too mad, or too anything.. it drives me nuts... really it does
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    Feb 24, 2010, 01:50 PM

    Sounds like he is controlling.
    Have you thought about marriage counseling?
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    Feb 24, 2010, 05:15 PM

    That's completely unreasonable. Doesn't he ever get angry?
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    Feb 24, 2010, 05:44 PM

    You just be yourself, if he does not like you showing emotion, that is his problem. Will he go to counseling with you
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    Feb 24, 2010, 06:11 PM

    He doesn't want you show emotion or share your opinion?

    It sounds like he needs to do some work on the controlling behavior. Like a total overhaul.

    He does not own you, and your opinion does matter.

    If you allow this type of treatment, he's going to continue it.

    Will he go to counseling like has been suggested?
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    Feb 24, 2010, 06:32 PM

    PUNCH HIM IN THE EYE! That will shut him up! Then he'll know what it REALLY means to be TOO angry. :)

    OR, try to go to counseling, I like that idea better. :)
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    Feb 24, 2010, 08:03 PM

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    Hheath541 agrees: I'd aim somewhere a bit lower, personally
    So would I , but I didn't want to be the one giving her THAT idea, :D:rolleyes:
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    Feb 25, 2010, 04:08 AM

    A healthy boundary for the expression of our feelings/emotions states that we open a sentence with,"I feel..." we let go of the feeling and allow the other to express what they are feeling,if anything.

    Setting Personal Boundaries - protecting self

    Having personal boundaries allows us to be free of the outcomes,the expectations we often associate with differences of opinion,the controller verses the controlled.

    Take a look at that site, it took my S/O about a year to understand the boundary she had been working towards,to become recognizable(as to dealing with her family)

    it is an easy read,more difficult to implement being that we are already set in our ways.

    I hope you try it out and see how much freedom you can have from these situations you are in.
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