I'm 13 and I've been called fat and ugly and other harsh words and I turned to cutting but I want to stop how do I do this because I tried and it's hard.

You talk to an adult and find a better way to cope with your anger and frustration over being called names. Name callers and teasers are often cruel, ignorant, and jealous, and not worth hurting yourself over. They are bullies who feel bad about themselves as obviously you do to, and attack others, which you obviously don't want to do.

That's a good thing if you think about it, because it shows you are NOT cruel, and ignorant. Talk to a few trusted adults. Be honest with them about your feelings, and what those feelings have caused you to do. MOM, or DAD?

Good luck

First of all, realize that some kids in your age group "like to" bully those kids who might be shy or look a bit different. You know why? That brings me to Second of all, these bullies do this because they themselves are insecure about something, so, if they put someone else down and make that person the center of (negative) attention, no one will look at their flaws and problems and bully them!

What to do? Remember what I just said -- it's our little secret. Roleplay with a parent or good friend so that when someone puts you down, you can make a joke of it and thus deflate any hurtful words. "You're as fat as a pig" so you chuckle and say, "Oink, oink, oink" or "Do you know that pigs are really smart animals?" or some such thing. Be sure to go along with the "joke" and not let the bully get to you. The other thing you can do is not say a word and just walk away. Of course, be sure to talk about this bullying with an adult -- a parent or trusted teacher or the school counselor. Don't bully yourself by keeping it all inside and hurting yourself.

I'll tell you from personal experience, in 10 years those mean people won't even cross your mind. I had days when I considered not going to school because of bullying and feeling so scared and worthless. Now I can look back at my personal success and feel proud.

You are worth more than those feelings sweetie!

Hi dani, haven't seen you around in a long time. I hope the OP comes back and reads your excellent words.

I know what the experience feels like- I would say try to find another way to release what you are feeling- whether it's anger, sadness, or hatred or guilt, etc. I use writing a lot and it helps. Maybe keep a journal and write out every thought no matter how bad it may sound in your head and keep it, store it or burn it. After a while the need to cut will go away. It honestly isn't a good way to release emotions. And also don't pay attention to what others are saying. They are probably saying that because they are jealous of you and THEY are probably the fat ones. Hope this helps.