Hi I am in a relationship with my partener and we have a 9 month old son together and we love each other very very much.

When I first got with him I was aware he already had a child with someone else! I thought OK I can handle that I really like this guy, the first time I stayed over at his house there was a very loud banging on the door and aggressive shouting... I was quite curious as to who this was. I asked him and he said it was his brothers girlfriend wanting to use the computer, so everything was wonderful for the first three months then I found out I was pregnant.
That was it then the girl who he had his other little one with was round the house all the time finding excuse after excuse to turn up at our door! I asked my partner why she was like this and why it didn't work out with that other person and it all unravelled. Turns out he was never interested in her in the first place he was just having casual sex with her, she then deliberately came off the pill to trap him into something permanent. He wasn't interested still so she called his bluff to see if he was serious about having the baby terminated and he decided in the end to get with her for the baby's sake. So he moved into her mum and dads to help her raise there little one.
There was a few people living in this house as her parents adopted children as a way of earning money.

A couple of months later my partner was thirsty one one night so he went down stairs for a drink when he whitnessed the most terrible thing he ever saw in his life, her dad quickly moved away from the couch and one of the little girls her parents fostered was half naked lying on there her dad had a look of guilt on his face and the child was in a state crying and as you could imagine in these circumstances. My partner was comforting the foster child when my partners partner at the time was asking what had happened he explained it to her and they left the house for my partner to call the police and give a statement. Later on down the line when it was due to go to court the so called couple were arguing and he must of said something that hit a saw spot to her she said she was not going to testify against her dad and they split for good! It went to court and she was on her dads side as well as her mum and her dad got away with it as the judge said the little foster girl was disturbed and could be confused from privious things that happened with her last family, and there is no hard evidence as my partener started on drugs because he couldn't cope with what he saw. She turned around in an argument they had and said "ALL THIS BECAUSE MY DAD FIDDLED WITH SOME KID" he was dicused and didn't want anything to do with her at all and was discusted he had a child to such a family. But he loves his lttle one with all his heart. It doesn't end there that was just the beginning of our sad story. I have had to put up with games evey other week she comes up with something new, like taking there child to the hospital when there is nothing wrong with her, coming up with things to get the child to come to our house to say stuff to me. Drenching the poor littlen in perfume so he will smell her all over the child. I sent her a message after we spoke on the phone to confront her about one of her games she was playing. She spoke to me terribly so she is now causing trouble saying he can't see there child after he got joint custody because she dragged him through court telling lies about him saying he can't see the little one because he attacked her. This was a lie. All this isn't even half of the story and I don't think I can cope with all the stress is it worth it? Oh and the banging on the door that first day was her this is five years after the court case and she still declaires her undying love for him. I don't know w what to do any more the girl will never give up and she is only interested in money.. I seriously can't see her leaving us alone as a happy couple she will not quit till were no longer together.

OK,what do you want to do in this 'scenario'?

Have his kid,have her involved forever and you get to play middleman for the rest of your life?

Is his MO worth spending this much LIFE over?

You have to make decisions,ones that might be uncomfortable for all involved.

Are you willing to do the decision making?

KBC