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Crisis · Oct 15, 2005, 04:11 PM

The story of problem is rather long, but I'll try to keep it brief. I'm
A 28 year old male who is still a virgin, and not for a lack of trying.
Over the years, I have found that I simply don't get erections unless I
Masturbate in a certain way, and I lose my erection within less than a
Minute without direct stimulation. Once, I tried to penetrate my then
Current girlfriend after masturbating, but lost my erection because I
Simply didn't feel much of anything. I have tried using male sex toys
That simlulate the feel of a woman, but they provide virtually no stimulation
For me. In fact, I have found that if I'm in the shower, and water is
Too hot for the rest of my body, my penis feels almost nothing. Ever since
I was a teenager, I always thought it was weird that I never got spontaneous
Erections, or erections from watching porn or fantasizing. My doctor won't
Help, because he thinks I'm just trying to score some viagra. He says
28 year old men don't have erection problems, and that its all I'm my head.
Any suggestions anyone?

CroCivic91 · Oct 15, 2005, 04:34 PM

Originally Posted by Crisis

The story of problem is rather long, but I'll try to keep it brief...

Grab a huge bat and pay a visit to your doctor.

No, really, I think you should annoy the doctor until he decides to help you. It's the best advice I can give you. Can you get an appointment with another doctor? Sex therapist?

Chery · Oct 15, 2005, 05:35 PM

See a new Urologist and explain the issue as best as you can, even give a 'demonstration' if necessary. Check on some sites on the net, they might even have a medical forum with problems dealing with your type. The doctor you are seen now is not professional enough to waste good money or time on, so check around. Just for the heck of it type the issue in the search box of an engine, i.e 'erection problems', or even 'study of urology'. The latter might have different diagnoses or other cases such as yours'. Good Luck. My guess is that there might be a nerve severed in childhood and may be treatable, but that's only my opinion.. http://www.levitra.com/consumer/sexu..._checklist.htmThe link above will take you to a 'checklist' of med history you can have ready for your next doctor's visit, this might give him/her insight and catch on that you are serious.

letmeno · Oct 15, 2005, 06:52 PM

You should be @ your sexual peak @ this age. When the wind blows too hard, you should have an erection. For the love of all greater good, find another doctor.

fredg · Oct 16, 2005, 05:23 AM

Hi,
I agree with finding another doctor.
Your current doctor is not one I would personally want to go to.
Best of luck,
fredg

SHAVED · Jan 21, 2006, 06:26 AM

I agree with the statement that you should not have any erectile probblem at this age. As many others metioned, this is the peack age for instant erections and you are saying that you are not getting any erection even while watching porn. You lost your erection while penetrating to the vagina of your girl friend? I am sure there is something wrong. The Doctor whom you met is not the right one for you. Do you have any psychological issues which is troubling you? Something that happened in your childhood? You should find a good and experienced doctor dealing with such issues

Crisis · Jan 24, 2006, 03:40 PM

I appreciate everyone's replies, and I agree that particular doctor was not good or helpful for me, but to be honest I have a low of opinion of doctors (at least in my area).

Fr_Chuck · Jan 24, 2006, 03:48 PM

Originally Posted by Crisis

The story of problem is rather long, but I'll try to keep it brief. I'm
a 28 year old male who is still a virgin, and not for a lack of trying.
Over the years, I have found that I simply don't get erections unless I
masturbate in a certain way, and I lose my erection within less than a
minute without direct stimulation. Once, I tried to penetrate my then
current girlfriend after masturbating, but lost my erection because I
simply didn't feel much of anything. I have tried using male sex toys
that simlulate the feel of a woman, but they provide virtually no stimulation
for me. In fact, I have found that if I'm in the shower, and water is
too hot for the rest of my body, my penis feels almost nothing. Ever since
I was a teenager, I always thought it was weird that I never got spontaneous
erections, or erections from watching porn or fantasizing. My doctor won't
help, because he thinks I'm just trying to score some viagra. He says
28 year old men don't have erection problems, and that its all im my head.
Any suggestions anyone?

First 20 year old men 30 year old men and 50 year old men have sexual problems all the time,

Problems are often caused by medication for various things, high blood pressure, can also cause problems.

For the medical side, you need to see a specialist normally not your family doctor.

And of course stress of preformance causes a lot. If you can't do it once, you start to worry, the worry causes you not to again, and you worry more and more and more. In a some cases hypnoisis has helped with stress issues as does some other medications your doctor may try.

If you doctor does not take you serious, find a new doctor,

Chery · Jan 25, 2006, 04:19 AM

Originally Posted by Crisis

I appreciate everyone's replies, and I agree that particular doctor was not good or helpful for me, but to be honest I have a low of opinion of doctors (at least in my area).

If you never had the chance to get excited (even when alone) while thinking about girls (or even men) then did you perhaps have a circumcision done by someone who did not know what they were doing? If you get the opportunity to check this aspect of your body and sexuality out - you'll be more comfortable after being reassured that all is well with mind and body. Staying frustrated over the issue can only make it worse and make your self-esteem lower and hostility higher. At any rate, dear you need to talk to someone who can help you in this matter. Anything is possible this day and age, from early trauma of some kind to taboos that were implanted in your mind - and you need to find out what's preventing you from living a normal and physically as well as mentally healthy life. Wishing you all the luck in the world, dear, and please keep us posted.

You could also ask some of your peers what type of fantasies 'turn' them on, and see if any work for your.