Ask Experts Questions for FREE Help !
Ask
    ger*'s Avatar
    ger* Posts: 5, Reputation: 1
    New Member
     
    #1

    Feb 3, 2006, 01:05 PM
    Sexuality confusion
    Hi, I have a little problem. Well one day I was tired of just mastembating, I don know I wanted something more exciting. So I decided to look at porn. While I was looking at it I came across gay porn, I got an erection. Then I masterbated to it. Then I started looking at gay porn more often. I don't want o be gay... I like a girl at school but I don't know what happened. It just happened. I've tried masterbating to other porn that wasn't gay but it just wanst as har (if you know what I mean.) I juust so confues!! I don't want to be gay is all I know... :confused:
    orange's Avatar
    orange Posts: 1,364, Reputation: 197
    Ultra Member
     
    #2

    Feb 3, 2006, 01:57 PM
    I personally wouldn't make a habit of using porn, especially when you're young, because it can be pretty addictive. However, I don't think that being turned on by gay porn necessarily makes you gay. Porn of any kind is very suggestive and you're a guy right? Guys are generally very turned on by anything visual, and perhaps the gay porn is just something you especially like looking at. People can have fantasies about things that they would never actually do or want to do in real life. Also, since you're young, you're at kind of an experimental stage as far as sexuality. I'm female, and I had a relationship with another girl when I was about 14. However, I'm straight, 26 now, married and expecting a child. I really wouldn't stress about it too much. If you really were gay, you would likely be interested in other boys at your school rather than girls.

    I hope some of the guys on the forum can reassure you about this!
    fredg's Avatar
    fredg Posts: 4,928, Reputation: 674
    Ultra Member
     
    #3

    Feb 3, 2006, 02:21 PM
    Hi, ger,
    Don't worry about it. If you decide to be with another boy or man, then after it's over, if you go through with it, I would then be concerned.
    Best of luck.
    nwsflash's Avatar
    nwsflash Posts: 530, Reputation: 73
    Senior Member
     
    #4

    Feb 3, 2006, 04:36 PM
    I don't think that being turned on by gay porn necessarily makes you gay
    Hi Ger* at 14 your far to young to be putting lables on yourself. At your age you will find that your body is going over lots of changes and your hormone levels will be all over the place, which will make you have lots of different feelings.

    Just because you masterbated over gay porn is not going to turn you gay ! Teen boys go over all different types of experimentation and this sounds like just that experimentation... You say that gay porn made you harder, maybe its because your intrested in seeing other guys and comparing with what they look like? Being gay is more than just yanking one off over gay porn, it would be about your feelings and having feelings towards other guys in a sexual kind of way !

    Just relax and enjoy being you, also try and cut down on the use of porn too dude... And welcome to the forum...
    JoeCanada76's Avatar
    JoeCanada76 Posts: 6,669, Reputation: 1707
    Uber Member
     
    #5

    Feb 3, 2006, 05:03 PM
    It is very normal for teenagers to be curious about many different things. Do not worry about it but if this is causing confusion for you try to stay away from the porn. It is not a possitive thing.

    Joe
    ger*'s Avatar
    ger* Posts: 5, Reputation: 1
    New Member
     
    #6

    Feb 3, 2006, 11:00 PM
    Thanks!! This really helped. I try not to stress over it.
    Tark's Avatar
    Tark Posts: 6, Reputation: 2
    New Member
     
    #7

    Feb 4, 2006, 12:32 AM
    Gay/straight/bisexual... they are all just labels invented to box people. Stuff the labels.
    If you get turned on by male pornography, no big deal.
    Feel what you want to feel, there's no law against it.
    And if you want to read porn, then that's fine too. Don't let people make you feel guilty about something that you want to do that doesn't harm anyone else.
    nwsflash's Avatar
    nwsflash Posts: 530, Reputation: 73
    Senior Member
     
    #8

    Feb 4, 2006, 08:43 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by ger*
    thanx!!! this really helped. i try not to stress over it.
    That's the best thing you can do CHILL :) and don't let yourself get stressed over it ;)
    orange's Avatar
    orange Posts: 1,364, Reputation: 197
    Ultra Member
     
    #9

    Feb 4, 2006, 02:08 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by Tark
    Don't let people make you feel guilty about something that you want to do that doesn't harm anyone else.
    Just to clarify my position on porn, I am not against it... I've looked at it myself on occasion. But I've seen too many guy friends get really addicted to it, and then not be able to have a fulfilling relationship with another person. Or, they get to a point where they need porn just to get an erection. My ex couldn't have sex at all unless he looked at porn first. That's what I'm worried about here, especially since ger is young. If he wants to look at porn, fine, but my advice would be in moderation. I hope that he's also socializing and having fun with others, not just alone.
    smoothy's Avatar
    smoothy Posts: 25,495, Reputation: 2853
    Uber Member
     
    #10

    Feb 17, 2006, 07:14 AM
    Its not gay unless you feel emotionally attracted to the same sex as you would be with the opposite sex.

    Sexual attraction and emotional atraction are not the same.
    hollywood90's Avatar
    hollywood90 Posts: 6, Reputation: 0
    New Member
     
    #11

    Mar 17, 2006, 07:20 PM
    Dude I don't know what to say, I never watch gay porn it always turned me off, I have experamented and found out it wasn't for me, don't be shy about it, if you are you are if not even better, I don't think I'm helping so good luck bud

Not your question? Ask your question View similar questions

 

Question Tools Search this Question
Search this Question:

Advanced Search

Add your answer here.


Check out some similar questions!

F1-H1 confusion again! [ 1 Answers ]

IN this website http://www.thetaxguy.com/residency.htm The tax guy says... Dual-Status Aliens Note on page 7 of Publication 519 under Dual-Status Aliens that you could be both a nonresident alien and a resident alien in the same year. That means your tax return becomes more...

Confusion [ 3 Answers ]

I was on the depo shot for 6 years. I got off the shot in January 06. I received my period in 2/06 but this month I havenít got my period yet. Last month it was over by the 12th. Should I be worried?

Confusion [ 2 Answers ]

My best friend says he misses me and wants to see me but he said he doesn't like me any and we've been friends for over 7 to 8 yrs.. straight and we did go out but it never worked. And I like him a lot... n we've never stopped being friends and I tell him how I feel about him and I don't know what...


View more questions Search