I love my wife more than I have ever loved anyone else, but I’m having a difficult time with dealing with her and her past. My wife has stated that if something happened to me, such as dying, then she would go back to him, even though she has said that he treated her badly. By badly means that she told him that she was pregnant and immediately he said to have an abortion that just seems wrong on so many levels. She stayed together with him even after that happened then they just drifted apart a few years later. The reason that she stayed with him for so long was that she loved him and that the sex was great because he was extremely well hung.

How can I replace him in her heart and mind? Should I even try?