My husband was married to his ex for 4 unhappy decades during which he had several relationships with other women. One in particular, we'll call her Violet, is under my skin. She is married to his oldest friend, in the past she called him 3 or 4 times a day and declared her love. He cared for her and suggested they divorce their spouses to be together. She refused but the phone/Internet relationship continued for a total of 10 years. She lives far away and still emails and calls his cell and leaves a message occasionally. Long before we became close and he told me their story, I became a Face Book friend of hers for a game we used to play online. After we married he unfriended her on FaceBook but she keeps trying to get to him through me. She is nice to me, but I wish she would leave me/us alone. My husband is loving and gives me no cause to believe he is cheating. He reassurred me long ago that, for him, it is all over between them and I believe that. Violet is a hypocrite, in my opinion. Always thumping her bible on Face Book, yet while he was married to his ex Violet has crawled into bed with my husband while he was visiting in her own house with her husband sleeping upstairs. More than once. He sent her out of the room. I wish I could put her out of my mind.

Why are you allowing this woman to have any type of contact with you even if it is on Facebook. Just a reminder... when playing games.. there is always a winner and a loser!! Perhaps its time to stop trying to get one over on her. Block her from Facebook, and if your husband has stopped all contact then surely he wouldn't mind getting a new phone number so she can no longer leave any messages.

Good Luck