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    bradysmama17 Posts: 35, Reputation: 1
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    Feb 19, 2009, 02:32 PM
    What should I do?
    I have been with the guy I'm with for 3 years. We have no children. And I don't feel like I'm in love with him anymore, what should I do? And how do you tell someone that you simply don't love them anymore? I find myself when I hang up the phone with him telling him I love him when I don't. Is that because I'm so used to saying it? What do I do? I am ready to move on to bigger and better things.pleas help.
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    Feb 19, 2009, 02:38 PM

    Are you still in love with his step-father?
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    Feb 19, 2009, 02:53 PM

    I think you made your point very clear here.

    Repeat it to him. It is pointless to continue in a loveless relationship.It serves no one.

    Just be certain those *bigger and better* things you are seeking are the real deal.
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    Feb 20, 2009, 08:06 AM

    Yes and he is in love with me, but that isn't the reason I fell out of love with him. The reason was he (3 years) acts like more like a boss or a father to me. Step dad treats me like a queen. I don't like having to be treated like a child. I really love his step dad and we are currently figuring a way to make this work. I know that cheating is wrong but how do I make him leave without worrying about if something bad happens to him? I don't love him but I am a very caring person. I don't know what to do? HELP!
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    Feb 20, 2009, 08:14 AM
    Wow,

    You seeing someone else because they make you feel better about yourself, and yet you don't have the 'bal*s' to tell your current boyfriend what the truth is...

    This is a sad situation, and you are going to learn a hell of a lot about yourself in the next couple of months.

    Sort it out and tell him, you are being extreamly unfair and downright selfish.

    Would you want to be treated like this?
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    Feb 20, 2009, 08:30 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by bradysmama17 View Post
    yes and he is in love with me, but that isnt the reason i fell out of love with him. the reason was he (3 years) acts like more like a boss or a father to me. Step dad treats me like a queen. I dont like having to be treated like a child. I really love his step dad and we are currently figuring a way to make this work. I know that cheating is wrong but how do i make him leave without worrying about if something bad happens to him? I dont love him but i am a very caring person. I dont know what to do? HELP!!
    Could it be that because you are in the honeymoon phase that Step dad treats you like a queen or could it be because he is trying to get with you that he is just showing the side he wants you to see?
    It is never wise to jump from one relationship to another.

    You ask.. . how can you leave him without worrying and I guess that is a risk your going to have to take. I am sure there are friends that will rally to his side and help him.

    Does your husband treat you like a child for any particular reason?
    .Have you given him cause to mistrust you?

    It's a moot point if you are moving on but often when you move on to bigger and better you realize the problem is inside of you and all you have done is switch partners.

    Good luck!
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    Feb 23, 2009, 02:20 PM

    Well I left him and he is already over me... doesnt that say something bad about him... like he never really loved my from the begininning? Its really iover between the 2 of us. I am seeing his step-dad. And we are going to get married probably by the end of march. But thanks for all the help.
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    Feb 23, 2009, 02:37 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by bradysmama17 View Post
    well i left him and he is already over me.....doesnt that say something bad about him.....like he never really loved my from the begininning? Its really iover betwen the 2 of us. I am seeing his step-dad. and we are going to get married probably by the end of march. but thanks for all the help.
    Wow, the changes that can happen in three days.

    Good luck to you.

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