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jrc2011 · Oct 10, 2011, 12:20 PM

We have just recently gotten married and basically have good marriage/relationship. My husband made a good friend about a year ago with a guy who doesn't have a wife/relationship. This guy is always either at our house, calling him, or asking him to go somewhere/day trips. I have been upset with the amount of time he spends with us, as I feel he's always in our lives.

I feel like I give them enough time but when it's day-after-day or time-after time, I'm done with this person.

After several arguments, me & hubby decided to have some alone time this weekend. However, guess who showed up our house, with food that only them two would eat and they ended up eating together and I went to McDonald's! This is causing a huge argument. My husband has tried to tell him to back off somewhat, but he doesn't listen.

Please advise what to do.

CatieV · Oct 10, 2011, 02:21 PM

In my opinion the wisest thing to do would be to talk calmly but firmly with the guy. I admit he may be lonely or sad for whatever reason but it certainly doesn't mean that he can seek comfort in your family 24/7. Tell him you appreciate the fact that he is a great friend to your husband but that you two need space for yourselves. Just do not raise your voice or get annoyed, those things never work and only would worsen the situation because your husband would definetely not like it if you yelled at his best mate. Good luck!

ray408 · Oct 11, 2011, 04:30 AM

Its great that he has such a good friend but you should talk to the guy basically tell him just go to the bar the club a ball game a few times a week so you can have time alone with your husband or you could always try and hook him up with a friend or coworker ties up his time and gives you more with your man