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    Feb 24, 2008, 01:30 PM
    Is Therapy really an option or should I just cut my losses and move on?
    My husband and I have only been married for one year and in that year of being in the same house with him I am seeing and finding out things about him that not only bothers me but scars me. Ever since we have had to share responsibility he lies about everything; like making the house payment to paying his vehicle note which in the last month we have had to recover his vehicle and go to court to keep the home. He knows that I was not working but paying substantial amount of the bills but gets verbally abusive when his sheets are pulled back. I have asked him more that once to go to counceling and he refuses, I have hypothyroidism and I suppose to have a tsh test done monthly to ensure the right dosage of levothyroxin is given, when we got married he waited until the deadline to try to add me and I was denied medical coverage under his company. But, when he was laid off and lost his coverage used my name and social to get his daughter coverage through the state, made sure I did not see the package come in the mail and I discovered it putting clothing away just today. I have told him that as soon as I get back on my feet (employed) that I intend on moving back out on my own. I feel that he has a lot of issues but I'm wondering if jumping the fence is actually going to help the situation or make it worse. I have two sons 15 and 14 and I don't want them to think this is okay! I have always told them to just be honest. My husband condons cussing and fighting and I don't, he has also been charged with attempt to sell and does not have any remorse for what he has done or doing. I am so tired and confused, I'm to the point that I don't think prayer is going to help anymore.

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    Feb 24, 2008, 01:34 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by got2bfree
    My husband and I have only been married for one year and in that year of being in the same house with him I am seeing and finding out things about him that not only bothers me but scars me. Ever since we have had to share responsibility he lies about everything; like making the house payment to paying his vehicle note which in the last month we have had to recover his vehicle and go to court to keep the home. He knows that I was not working but paying substancial amount of the bills but gets verbally abusive when his sheets are pulled back. I have asked him more that once to go to counceling and he refuses, I have hypothyroidism and I suppose to have a tsh test done monthly to ensure the right dosage of levothyroxin is given, when we got married he waited until the deadline to try to add me and I was denied medical coverage under his company. But, when he was laid off and lost his coverage used my name and social to get his daughter coverage through the state, made sure I did not see the package come in the mail and I discovered it putting clothing away just today. I have told him that as soon as I get back on my feet (employed) that I intend on moving back out on my own. I feel that he has alot of issues but I'm wondering if jumping the fence is actually going to help the situation or make it worse. I have two sons 15 and 14 and I don't want them to think this is okay! I have always told them to just be honest. My husband condons cussing and fighting and I don't, he has also been charged with attempt to sell and does not have any remorse for what he has done or doing. I am so tired and confused, I'm to the point that I don't think prayer is going to help anymore.
    He sounds like a sociopath. None of this was evident before you married him?

    I wouldn't want my kids around that stuff either. If he refuses counseling, you probably have no choice but to leave.
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    Feb 24, 2008, 05:28 PM
    Moved from the introduction section.

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    Feb 24, 2008, 08:19 PM
    This man has serious problems. I don't think talking will change him, nor do I believe this behavior has just started. You must not have known him very well, or you made a very impulsive decision, to move in with him. But now you see he is hardly mate material. Protect yourself, and your children. ASAP!

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