|
|
|
|
Junior Member
|
|
Mar 9, 2008, 08:11 AM
|
|
We slept together but he has a profile on several dating sites !
Met a guy last October, we went on 5-6 dates and mutually agreed to take it a step further and slept together. We broke up after a couple more weeks (he got back with his ex). We then got back together about 6 weeks ago (yes I agreed to take him back). The other night I was round his place when I noticed on his laptop toolbar that he had visited Match.com. When I got home I searched match.com out of curiosity and he has a very recent profile on there and on several other dating sites. I phoned him and asked him what was the situation ? He replied 'well, I didn't think you wanted anything too heavy' ! For god's sake, I gave him a second go and we are sleeping together. Do I have the right to be annoyed and disappointed ?:mad:
|
|
|
-
|
|
Mar 9, 2008, 08:16 AM
|
|
Just a single question : however nice he may be to you in the future : would you ever trust him again?
.
Don't be angry. You know now what he is.
.
Find someone else!
.
Good luck!
.
:)
|
|
|
Senior Member
|
|
Mar 9, 2008, 08:20 AM
|
|
Well, what got said when you guys agreed to get back together? Was he saying he wanted to be boyfriend and girlfriend or was he just saying that he wanted to see how things go, or what. I do think you have a right to be disappointed, I know I would be in this situation. Why did he have the impression that you didn't want it to be "too heavy"? It sounds like he maybe he doesn't take sleeping together as seriously as you do. I would get rid of this guy if it were me, because he sounds like a player. He broke up with you after 2 weeks the first time, and now hurt you again. It sounds like he isn't ready for a commitment.
|
|
|
Junior Member
|
|
Mar 9, 2008, 09:17 AM
|
|
When we first got back together again, he said that he wanted it to be 'cool and laid back' and I said that that was fine and assumed he meant he didn't want things rushed into, which was OK by me. Perhaps it was all my fault for not communicating that I wanted to date him exclusively.
|
|
|
Expert
|
|
Mar 9, 2008, 01:24 PM
|
|
Perhaps it was all my fault for not communicating that I wanted to date him exclusively.
It takes two to talk and listen, and many new couple have the same problem.
|
|
|
Uber Member
|
|
Mar 9, 2008, 01:39 PM
|
|
Originally Posted by annsumm
Perhaps it was all my fault for not communicating that I wanted to date him exclusively.
Yep you have to tell a guy up front you ain't no easy sleezy, no sloppy seconds.
You don't want a dead end relationship!"
That still doesn't mean you won't end up with a player but at least you let them know up front what you are about.
|
|
|
Expert
|
|
Mar 10, 2008, 04:22 PM
|
|
It is not seroius for many men just to sleep together, It appears you assumeed the relastionship was a lot more then he did.
|
|
|
Software Expert
|
|
Mar 10, 2008, 04:28 PM
|
|
Getting mad and frustrated are choices you make OTHER than being honest.
Be honest. You've dated him and found out what you needed to know. Now act. Anything else is you just being dishonest... mostly with yourself.
Snap out of it, wish him well, and move on. No need for anger, all is well with the world.
|
|
|
Dating & Teen Expert
|
|
Mar 10, 2008, 06:56 PM
|
|
Originally Posted by annsumm
When we first got back together again, he said that he wanted it to be 'cool and laid back' and I said that that was fine and assumed he meant he didn't want things rushed into, which was ok by me. Perhaps it was all my fault for not communicating that I wanted to date him exclusively.
Cool laid back means sex? Not rush into things means sex? Exclusive dating and cool laid back, not rushing into things do not equate.
He told you what he wanted, you just did not listen. Don't be mad at him, pop yourself upside the head and then move on.
|
|
|
Junior Member
|
|
Mar 11, 2008, 12:46 AM
|
|
Thank you. I have now realised that cool and laid back was his way of saying - nothing serious, bit of fun. My fault for not realising and tackling it earlier. I have told him that I am not happy with how things were going and want to call it a day and wished him all the best. He replied with 'ok, I understand and wish you all the best too'. Life goes on and next time I will be communicating what I want before I get in too deep !
|
|
|
Senior Member
|
|
Mar 11, 2008, 11:30 AM
|
|
I think that was a good decision to make. Good for you! Good luck and I hope you meet someone nice soon! :)
|
|
|
Software Expert
|
|
Mar 11, 2008, 05:35 PM
|
|
Originally Posted by annsumm
Thank you. I have now realised that cool and laid back was his way of saying - nothing serious, bit of fun. My fault for not realising and tackling it earlier. I have told him that I am not happy with how things were going and want to call it a day and wished him all the best. He replied with 'ok, i understand and wish you all the best too'. Life goes on and next time I will be communicating what I want before i get in too deep !
Awesome. And later on, if you start mulling it over in your head again and start to get bothered by ANY OF IT, remind yourself that this was a successful relationship. You dated, discovered some incompatibilities and moved on... nobody got hurt.
Stay with that. Well done.
|
|
|
New Member
|
|
Mar 12, 2008, 04:20 AM
|
|
Originally Posted by annsumm
Met a guy last October, we went on 5-6 dates and mutually agreed to take it a step further and slept together. We broke up after a couple more weeks (he got back with his ex). We then got back together about 6 weeks ago (yes I agreed to take him back). The other night I was round his place when i noticed on his laptop toolbar that he had visited Match.com. When I got home I searched match.com out of curiosity and he has a very recent profile on there and on several other dating sites. I phoned him and asked him what was the situation ? He replied 'well, i didn't think you wanted anything too heavy' ! For god's sake, I gave him a second go and we are sleeping together. Do i have the right to be annoyed and disappointed ?:mad:
I think he must have done that before u get bk together but if u then see that he still has not taken himself out of the site, that means he his still trying to put himself out there and he his not satisfy with what he has got. I will advice you not to get too comfortable with him because people like that don't realise what they have got until its too late.
|
|
Question Tools |
Search this Question |
|
|
Add your answer here.
Check out some similar questions!
Problem Removing Sites From IE6 Restricted Sites Zone
[ 4 Answers ]
Hello,
I recently removed all of the entries that SpywareBlaster v3.5.1 had automatically loaded into my restricted sites zone on IE6 browser and I noticed that there were still two sites that weren't deleted in the process. I then remembered that I had manually added them to the restricted...
Slept with Ex. Now what?
[ 6 Answers ]
Hi. My ex from 5 years ago came down and spent the weekend with me. We really had a good time. I admit, there were those horribly awkward moments, but we survived. We ended up having really amazing, passionate, wow-where-did-the-time-go-sex. Immediately afterward, he looked as if he was about to...
Dating sites
[ 2 Answers ]
What is with the dating sites today? I have been on 5-6 of them. It seems like all the men(maybe women)are only interested in one thing, a one night stand. I email them several times, talk on the phone,have much in common, hit it off, they know I am only interested in a long term relationship, but...
Advice on online dating sites
[ 2 Answers ]
Hey everybody, I need some advice on what dating service I should sign up, looking around a found a couple of few sites like www.plentyofish.com and www.online4love.com as free sites. Anyone have any luck with free sites in the past. There are so many sites out there which ones are the best to...
View more questions
Search
|