Ask Experts Questions for FREE Help !
Ask
    minimouse08's Avatar
    minimouse08 Posts: 1, Reputation: 1
    New Member
    		  
    #1

    Oct 7, 2008, 08:23 PM
    Secret marriage
    I am 18 years old and a freshman in college... me and my boyfriend are engaged to be married next June but are thinking about going to the courthouse sooner and getting married... could we keep this a secret and still have our wedding in June or is there a legal issue with a second marriage?
    ChihuahuaMomma's Avatar
    ChihuahuaMomma Posts: 7,378, Reputation: 608
    Vision Expert
    		  
    #2

    Oct 7, 2008, 08:24 PM

    Of course you can get it done at the courthouse and then have the ceremony later? But why keep this a secret?? This is a horrible way to start your life together.
    hollylovesbrandon's Avatar
    hollylovesbrandon Posts: 633, Reputation: 78
    Senior Member
    		  
    #3

    Oct 8, 2008, 08:35 AM

    I got married at the court house (it wasn't a secret though) and we are going to have a big bash huge wedding sometime in the future. We're thinking for an anniversary or something. Does your family know you're engaged? If so, then they might not care that it's earlier. Like the poster before me said, don't start it out in a secret. It's bad karma.
    JBeaucaire's Avatar
    JBeaucaire Posts: 5,426, Reputation: 997
    Software Expert
    		  
    #4

    Oct 8, 2008, 09:32 AM

    I had a pastor who would SUGGEST this very thing to couples who were stressed by their upcoming nuptials. Sex is very relaxing, and being able to morally sneak away from it all for some relaxing "us" time without technically being wrong was a great idea, and several couples I knew took advantage of the idea.

    Now, what you're suggesting sounds much harder since June is so far away. You think you can keep the secret for that long? Maybe you can, it might even be fun. It will definitely be a bonding endeavor... and if the secret ever got out, it would ultimately be harmless.

    There are no legal bars to holding public wedding ceremonies after your actual private marriage. However, your presiding pastor will have to be informed what is going on. Technically, though, this is no different from "renewing your vows" ceremonies.
    ScottGem's Avatar
    ScottGem Posts: 64,966, Reputation: 6056
    Computer Expert and Renaissance Man
    		  
    #5

    Oct 8, 2008, 10:06 AM
    Can I ask why you are thinking of doing this? And why you want to keep it a secret? The reasons may change some answers.

    But from a legal standpoint, there is no problem. You will need to notify the clergyman who will perform the service since he would normally prepare and sign a license.
    talaniman's Avatar
    talaniman Posts: 54,325, Reputation: 10855
    Expert
    		  
    #6

    Oct 10, 2008, 12:49 PM

    Why keep it a secret??
    Fr_Chuck's Avatar
    Fr_Chuck Posts: 81,301, Reputation: 7692
    Expert
    		  
    #7

    Oct 10, 2008, 12:58 PM

    If you are ashamed to let people know you are married, don't,

    If you are too afriad and childish to wish to hide it from parents, you are not ready to be married.

    Next you can not have two Marriages, you can have two services, but there will not be a marriage license with the second. And in most they will merely bless your marriage not do the actual complete wedding.

    You both need to re-think why you want to be married if you will not admit it.
Not your question? Ask your question View similar questions
 

Question Tools Search this Question
Search this Question:

Advanced Search

Add your answer here.


Check out some similar questions!

Secret civil marriage now, Real wedding later? [ 2 Answers ]

Due to health care reasons and the fact that I will be overseas for the next year, My fiancé and I have decided to have a civil marriage before our church wedding. I know that you can have a blessing of a civil ceremony, but is it possible to have that religious ceremony be the same (to those...

Secret Marriage [ 4 Answers ]

My fiancé and I are planning our large wedding in New York for June. The thing is he was in the military and while he was active we secretively got married without telling any friends or family members. Now he is out of the military and we are planning a wedding. We are getting married in New...

The Secret [ 2 Answers ]

First of all, I'm Wham and I can't for the life of me, figure out how to use the introduction board, I'm from New Zealand, I am a Maori from Opotiki. Has anyone out there seen The Secret, and if you have what do you think

International Marriage in military.. Could Divorce... What do I do to save our marriage [ 7 Answers ]

My husband is in Germany serving the US Army and since November 14, 2005 he has been gone. I was supposed to go over there with him but yet to go. He says that he wants a divorce and when I try to get the real true reason out of him nothing works all he says is that I know why but deep down I have...

Should I keep it a secret? [ 1 Answers ]

There was this exchange student last year from Germany and he sat behind me in my English Junior class. I didn't get to know him until the last few days of school because I was too shy to interact. When I finally got to know him, he caught my heart. At that time, however, I thought it was just...

View more questions Search