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    Stac33 Posts: 115, Reputation: 5
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    Sep 6, 2007, 10:19 AM
    Married and insecure?
    My husband and I have been together for 17 yrs(married 15). Both 34 and two sons. He works quite a few hours in a day and I know he's tired, but I am missing the sex we used to have during the week. We usually do things on the weekend(sexually). But I want more. More touching, too. I am very guilty of nagging about this. You know like- "can't you touch me more(sexually). Don't you want me anymore? Why don't you want very much sex". DO you suppose that this is making him not want to? I hate when I nag about it, but sometimes it seams I can't help it. Please help!! :confused:
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    Sep 7, 2007, 10:32 AM
    I'm sure comments like that aren't helping. Try speaking with your body, rather than with words.

    When he comes home from work, give him a sexy kiss rather than a peck on the cheek. Rub his neck when he sits down to take off his shoes. Treat him to his favorite dessert after dinner, run a hot bath and send the kids to their friends house.
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    Sep 7, 2007, 10:57 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by LearningAsIGo
    I'm sure comments like that aren't helping. Try speaking with your body, rather than with words.

    When he comes home from work, give him a sexy kiss rather than a peck on the cheek. Rub his neck when he sits down to take off his shoes. Treat him to his favorite dessert after dinner, run a hot bath and send the kids to their friends house.
    I just got done having my monthly "friend" for 18 straight days. In that time I pleasured him 3 times while I got nothing. So last night I took a long bath thinking something might get started by him since it had been over 18 days. He played with my butt a little and went out to play video games until 10 with the kids and I went to bed. What is wrong with him. I did leave him not the nicest message on his phone this morning. I am just hurt.:(
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    Sep 7, 2007, 11:20 AM
    Has he been taking any heart medication lately? Or any other new medication within the period where his libido has waned? Sometimes betablockers reduce a man's sexdrive - a talk with the doctor might help.

    Has he had any unusual stress at work or home?

    Maybe wearing something sexy in the evening and new hairstyle or make-up would help. Sometimes routines can get old.

    If there have not been any major changes lately, try just giving him the opportunity to make the first move, even if you have to wait a little longer.

    How about taking a nice long walk on a warm evening and just talking about things that concern you, instead of complaining. He might be more open to conversation in a non-compromising environment, whereas the bedroom would just put pressure on him.

    Good luck dear, let us know how you are doing..
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    Sep 10, 2007, 01:20 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by Stac33
    My husband and I have been together for 17 yrs(married 15). Both 34 and two sons. He works quite a few hours in a day and I know he's tired, but I am missing the sex we used to have during the week. We usually do things on the weekend(sexually). But I want more. More touching, too. I am very guilty of nagging about this. You know like- "can't you touch me more(sexually). Don't you want me anymore? Why don't you want very much sex". DO you suppose that this is making him not want to?? I hate when I nag about it, but sometimes it seams I can't help it. Please help!!!:confused:
    Sometimes I nag too and my husband says it's a turn off. My husband works long hours and is always tired too. He told me instead of nagging just give him oral and he would be in the mood, I thought that was pretty selfish of him,but it does work. Try it and seee if it works for you
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    Sep 17, 2007, 08:35 AM
    You mean you can't just jump on top and take what you want? I find that hard to believe.
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