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    nabdullah18 Posts: 1, Reputation: 1
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    Feb 13, 2011, 02:41 PM
    married but not accepted
    I'm a muslim woman and I married a muslim boy we are now married for 4 years.the parents of my husband don't accept me (maybe because I was already married before).Is it a sin if my husband will stay married with me or should he divorce me because his parents are not happy with our marriage.(We married without permission of his parents they even don't know that we are married)i got permission of my parents.what should we do .
    My question is should my husband divorce me, because his parents don't accept me.

    *** give me a answer its very important for my future to know if we live in sins or not.
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    ma0641 Posts: 15,675, Reputation: 1012
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    Feb 13, 2011, 02:48 PM
    This is your life, not the parents. If your relationship fosters a loving marriage, keep at it, ignore his parents.
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    Feb 13, 2011, 02:52 PM

    I think the answers you get will vary by cultural and religious backgrounds.

    Personally, I would say if you and your husband are otherwise happy stay together. But if his parents are unhappy and you and/or your husband is going to struggle with it, that may put strain on the marriage.

    And as for whether you're living in sin, that's going to vary by culture and religion too. Do you have a religious leader you can talk to about this? Again, I would say no, it's not a sin. But that's my personal belief and I realize in some religions and cultures there will be disagreement.
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    Feb 13, 2011, 10:43 PM

    I think he knows what the deal is, and has married you any way, so relax, and enjoy it, and let him deal with his family in his way. I mean its been 4 years, so he sounds like his mind is made up whether his family accepts you, or not.
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    Feb 14, 2011, 12:10 AM

    This is a site that firmbeliever, Follower of Islam, has used as a source. I hope the information you can get from it will set your mind at ease. Islam Question and Answer - Does a mother have the right to reject a woman her son wants to marry?

    From what I, as a non-Muslim, could understand, it does sound like your husband is without sin in going against his parent's wishes in choosing you for his wife.

    If you are still unsure, seek counsel from your religious leaders.
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    Feb 14, 2011, 03:13 PM
    Just have cool nerves

    Always be polite and honest.

    You love your husband and vice versa, then there is no problem.

    All you have to do is be kind to in-laws and fear Allah. That's all.

    Because broking relations with your loved ones, is not part of Islam.

    Cheers
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