I am married but tired of sex with a man. Am I gay. I long to be with a female, but this thought interrupts my ability to be satisfied with my husband intimately. Any suggestions? I am tired of pretending that I am pleasured. It is almost like a job now. What should I do. Should I have a secret affair with a woman to get it out of my system. My husband is wonderful. He wants a threesome. I am not interested in that. Men are rough and hairy. A female is soft and sensual. Please somebody give me some advice.