I am heartbroken about my husband leaving. We have been married almost 11yrs and he came to me and told me that he was not in love with me anymore. We have attempted to remain friends and he has not filed for divorce yet, but it is very difficult and I want him to come back to me. He said I need to make changes and become happier. Well it is hard to do when I feel so alone. See, my husband and my father are business partners and he is always with My Dad, Stepmom, and my 26yr old sister. They have all become very close and are always going to dinner and out places. I never get invited anymore, no one calls me, or anything. I was able to check his phone records and noticed that he is calling and texting my sister often, which is not normal. He claims because she is currently going through a divorce they have had a lot in common and that is why they are talking. Well, I have tried telling all of them that it hurts my feeling and I feel very left out, but they say I am being dramatic and it continues. It is almost to the point where I am wondering if my husband and my sister are having an affair and my Dad and Step Mom are covering it up. I love my husband and this is driving me insane. I have become obsessed with this and unable to move forward in my life. I feel totally betrayed and unloved by them all. What do I do?

That is a very strange situation. Unusual that it is him, instead of you, getting support from your family. Which is the way it should be as far as I'm concerned.

He may be in business with your father, but a professional relationship is where this should remain right now. As long as you and your husband have issues to work out, he should not be bending your sister's ear, simply because he too is facing possible divorce. Why on earth is she not confiding in you, and you in her!

Have you talked to both your father and your sister, alone, and told them how you feel, directly? I would be very hurt if this were happening to me.

If you suspect your husband is up to something with your sister, or another woman, and he is not interested in attempting to reconcile with you, or attend counselling, or even show you any consideration, it may be time to, for now, see if you can't get some good legal advice. I truly hope you aren't in for more disappointment and/or surprises.

Wow, this is an intense situation. First you need to go talk to someone, like a counselor. You need to vent to someone that will listen to you and be impartial. Maybe have your dad or sister come to the counselor with you so that you can explain to them with a 3rd party how their actions are making you feel. If you want your husband back, don't let him dictate the terms. Get happy with yourself in your own life and then maybe you can work it out with him.

When a family cannot love and support you through a difficult time, screw them and stand on your own. Sometimes good friends are better able to helps us than family who don't care.