My husband of 14 years and his ex wife are really good friends. She has not dated in over 21 years, and really never wanted to get married. She does not care about her looks, and often is embarrassing in her clothing. My problem is that my husband is her caretaker. He will giver her money for clothes, speaks to her nightly, confides in her, sends her food baskets, and feels that there is nothing wrong with his actions. I feel that he is not loyal to me. How do I accept this relationship?