Hi,

If anyone has any type of answers that can help me, please share them with me

Thanks, Mark

How can we help you if we don't know what is going on in your marriage?

Can you elaborate on your situation please?

hi, sorry forgot that part

https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/go/explore.php?do=showthread&t=537536

Okay, without going to that link because I don't use the skin that is used in that link, can you summarize, for us, why you might think your wife is cheating on you?

As it appears to be quite a lenghty issue, assuming I have the right thread: https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/family...ck-537536.html

From what I can make of this thread, you already know your wife cheated on you previously, and she has left you and taken the children against your wishes. Have I got that correct?

Are you now trying to work out if she has another lover as well?

We definitely need some clarification as to what's going on.

Please come back and add some information!

@ QLP

And sorry for late response, yes because it seems to me not ONLY she had one she had a load of them, plus trying to find out as well if stuff like this can be caused of being molested as a kid at a very young age she always seem ti hide something what she never wanted to tell me, and was always was scared of something always tried to run away from something but I never knew from what

She always had the feeling that people look at her that people wanted her and that people touched her and that people want to touch her

And after reading so much the past 2 months that a person that does bad will always run after his victim no matter what the person will always hunt you and your feelings and make you fare living

There is so much more to say but 1st let me start with giving you a taste what I am really trying to to gain out of all this sorry I am in pain and sometimes its very hard ti express myself but QLP thanks for giving me the words to express myself, I hope you guys have a better understanding and will try my best to express myself the best I can you guys are the best.

Certainly one possibility of previous sexual abuse is that the victim can go on to be sexually promiscuos and find remaining in a proper relationship difficult. I don't know that you can draw this as a definite conclusion though. Only your wife knows the answers as to what happened in her past, and what exactly is going on now.

What are you hoping for at the moment? To get back with your wife and children as a family again? To get your children back? To gain understanding of what is happening with your wife so you can move on? Are you hoping that if you find out your wife has several lovers that this will somehow strengthen your case for getting your children back?

I understand that you are hurting now and you have my sympathy. We are very happy to be here for you but can you explain a bit more about exactly what you want help with on this?

Are you trying to work out what to do next or trying to come to terms with your own feelings or both?

How much contact are you actually having with your wife right now?

@ QLP

Thanks for your kind response

on your quote

What are you hoping for at the moment? To get back with your wife and children as a family again? To get your children back? To gain understanding of what is happening with your wife so you can move on?

OK what I heard is that about 5% of people who abuse you in anyway are strangers 95% are close ones and sometimes really close ones and even more close your own family, her dad has a very bad past with being abusing with others and always got away with it and still gets away with it

And her dad always hated her all the years, that's a sign of something bad, she always ran away from him all the years, she was never in good term's with him, but in the other side they where best friends, and he sent her something else he sent her to NY to live thinking his guilt will fade but it didn't it just became stronger and he did what is known is the bad person will always hunt the victim

She always use to tell me she hates him and talk bad about him and how bad of a person he is and what he did to others all his life, and a few hours later she use to talk to him on the phone for hours

Maybe she tried to hint me and I was just blind?? She always had suffered of stuff I still don't know from, she always said she feels very bad she is going to die and always use to say she don't know why she has to be alive, and she never wanted to face any pro with me face to face, never wanted to go to a doc when she had a cold even she was very sick she use to say let me wait a day or 2, she use to take stuff for miagrains, but the last time I checked there is noting to relay take for miagrains, and when she didn't have stuff to take she use to go out of her mind and say she is going to pass out, was she om drugs or still on drugs?? her dad is on drugs maybe he drugged her all the years?? And he made her come back to be next to him

So all this is like puzzling in my mind, I ma happy you guys can try to clear me up a little

Thanks again