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    Aug 26, 2009, 01:24 AM
    Get back my husband's love
    My husband does what his mother says and he thinks what ever I say it will be negetively. His mother has set his mind that I am a bad wife to him so he always say those lines that is told by her, my in-law's believe in that women should be treated badly like we the daughter-in-law should not sit together nor say them that if they wrong they believe that they are 100% right and know every thing,I have a brother-in-law he is also like that only with his married life ,my in-laws have set there son's mind that wife's are to cook lookafter the kids have sex and follow and listen there bad words.my father-in-law have 2 wife now he is with the second one my husband is the son of second one so his mother keep saying you can get married to another by leaving me and those words is quite common inther day to day life, they alwaya interfear in our marriage life and drive my husband away from me. Now my husband treats me as his enemy and always try to hurt me every moment and he always stops me doing any good.the main thing is he discus evey thing with his mother from small to small things and eve sex relationship of ours .I am really getting frusted with these .
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    Aug 26, 2009, 01:32 AM

    Get back my husbands love?
    How about
    Make a mother-in-law butt out!
    You need to explain to your husband you will not take this ABUSE from him any longer
    You are the wife and in order for you BOTH to have a happy family life he needs to treat you in a loving respectful way
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    Aug 26, 2009, 01:50 AM
    Where do you live?and which faith do you follow?generally speaking some parents think they own their children and some men/women can't stand up to their parent and don't see themselves as able to cut the cord.its a situation that doesn't make for healthy adult relationships.
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    Aug 26, 2009, 02:08 AM
    Unfortunately some men think that their mother is omnipotent, and can do no wrong. By way of the day to day running of the house, or by opinion. Their mama is never wrong. If you find yourself married to one of these guys, YOU basically can do no RIGHT. Not only is mama setting the standard, but she has a say in your marriage. These are tough, as no mother ( most of these types) feels that the woman her son picked is good enough for her baby boy. If he doesn't respect you, or show you love, and is satisfied with this arrangement of his mother running his life and marriage, there may be no other way than to get out. Try counseling, if mama says it's OK.
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    Aug 26, 2009, 04:06 AM

    It sounds like to me they have some sort of family curse. If the first one doesn't do what you want move on to the next. Your husband needs to grow up . You are his wife not his mother and he need to recognize this. This is a problem in a lot of relationships. Marriage is about give and take. Why should you agree with him when he's wrong. Why even would he want you to. Everyone should have someone around them who will tell them what they need to hear not what they want to hear. She really should stay out of your problems but how can she when he keeps taking them to her. First of all this is a whole new generation, women no longer stay home and watch kid's and clean house. They work and most of them bring home more money than their husband's. So that old fashion rule that your mother in law lived with doesn't apply for today's marriage. If your home with your kid's and that's what you've decided to do for your family that's o.k. but you don't have to put up with what their trying to force on you. You have your own thoughts and desires, and he needs to stop being selfish. Your not a robot you have thoughts and feelings , wants and needs also. Stay strong and stand your ground when you know your right!!

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