So I have been with my husband for almost two years now, I know he loves me so much and he's been so patient with me and he always wants to hug me and cuddle and I believe not a lot of men are like that

BUT his gorgeous ex broke up with him two weeks prior to their wedding. They were together for a year and a half, long distance relationship. After breakup he felt humiliated and financially used... so now whenever the ex subjects comes up his voice shivers and there was this one time where he got upset and swore at her and how much she used him and no matter what he did for her it was never enough :s It's been already 4 years since they broke up, but he is still so hurt and when I ask him why, he tells me he was badly disrespected by her and her family.

I have a gut feeling that he still has feelings for her. I feel like he unconsciously compares me to her and one time he complimented me on the things I have but she didn't have like a generosity, soft heart, giving, etc.

Although he he swore on his parents life that I am the only true love he's ever had but how could that be when he was going to marry his ex...

Do you think he still has feelings for her? He said that when it all ended he was still in love with her...

How could he be this in love with me if he still hurting by his ex?

Please tell me the truth even if it's hard.

One trivial point: My husband is a Leo if it would make a difference, and I know Leo are so proud and get hurt easily if disrespected.

Imagine for a second that you were in his shoes. You think your going to marry the woman of your dreams and then bam she basically tells you she hates you 2 weeks before you're about to pledge your lives to each other. Tha'd be rough for anyone! He has literally had to go from totally head over heels in love to hating someone who he didn't even realize hated him.

Love is something that you can't just get over, no matter how long it's been. It's like your first boyfriend, no matter how badly the breakup was you still look fondly on the time you spent together (or at least most people do... otherwise the whole thing was a waste of time!)

I think that he's still hurt from the situation, but I don't think he's still in love with her. Thinking about her probably brings up emotions about how in love he felt and then brings up the fact that she didn't love him in return. And now that he's found you he's probably worried about the same thing happening so he mentions how upset it made him to make you see how hurt he was by the situation. He probably compares you to her to reassure himself that you're not the same type of person and mentions it to let you know that he doesn't hate you like he hates her.
On top of that it's probably fairly hard to not mention his ex because I mean he was going to marry the woman so she was a fairly big part of his life.
So basically if he's in love at all he's in love with the memory of her not with her personally.

It sounds like you have a good guy. Don't break his heart by accusing him of being in love still with the woman who broke his. Love doesn't die over night it takes time. Maybe gently remind him when he mentions the ex that you are not her and that you'll love him forever no matter what.

Thank you so much for your reply, it's so helpful. But I am confused, how could he swear on his parents life that I am the only one he truly loved when he was about to marry his ex. Is he lying to me and why would he do that?

You are over thinking this, as obviously he has grown to feel you are his only love, and the feelings he had before for her probably don't compare to what he feels for you. Not even close.

Even after many past relationships, I tell my wife that she is the best thing that ever happened to me... and mean it sincerely.

You're talking in circles. It's almost like you want us to tell you he's un-loyal just because he almost married someone else. You're jealous of a memory- and quite frankly that's a silly thing to be jealous about.

At the time I'm sure he loved her very much; but given the circumstances I'll say that he more than likely doesn't feel that way anymore. He's not lying to you; you're over thinking the situation like talaniman said.

The foundations of marriage are trust, honesty, and loyalty. Trust that your husband is being honest and be loyal by believing him.

You have been married to him for two years, why is this an issue with you?
He more than likely loved her and was hurt, but he has been married to you for two years and you are now the love of his life.
He may still be angry and hurt but he is married to and is good to you. Don't mention his ex to him, that is just useless and rather sadistic. Enjoy the man you have. Leave his ghosts alone.