Can I have istikhara after marriage?
Asked Aug 23, 2011, 08:45 AM
I married a month ago, and now we are going for breakup. We were engaged for 9 months and before engagement did istikhara, and it was good.
We have had a lot of misunderstanding between us after marriage. I spoke with her brothers and they said they didn't have any control over their sister. I am really worried because I like her and don't want to leave her.
She only lived with me for a week and then went to live with her mother. Now she says
I did istikhara which demonstrated we are two different people not able to live togeather happily.
She says we are slaves of Allah and have to obey his deceissions. She thinks the istikhara I did before marriage meant I could marry her, but things changed. Why did it get worse in one week.
Problem: On marriage night, she told me she is not ready for anything (intimate), and I tried to be a little aggressive, so she decided I don't have respect for her, and told me she wasn't comfortable with me touching her hand.
I told her I was her husband and there was no harm intended in touching her hands. Since this night, she left me a week later.
Last edited by CliffARobinson; Aug 23, 2011 at 01:30 PM.