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Aug 11, 2008, 11:19 AM
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Adultry pregnant
I am a muslim women, and I'm not proud to say I'm pregnant from adultery.Ive never been so confused in my life I don't know what to do.Abortion has crossed my mind but I don't think it's the right way to go.what I've done is haram I know,will allah (swt) forgive me and what should I do? What's my punishment for the hereafter?
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Uber Member
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Aug 11, 2008, 11:31 AM
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I am not muslim so I really don't have an answer for you except for
Pray for forgiveness and ask 'Allah' for his perfect will in your life.
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Aug 11, 2008, 11:47 AM
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Hello fai-23,
Are you pregnant by another man who is married to someone else ?
Are you married, if so does your husband know?
I am not muslim but adultery is wrong under any religion or no religion.
I know if you pray with all your heart for forgiveness and you are totally sincere in this that eventually you should be forgiven, however I am not muslim and do not have any advice on how you will be accepted with in your community.
I do know muslim women who have made the same mistake,who have kept it totally from their friends and family, later they have decided on abortion as the best option all round, resuming back to their normal life hoping that God/Allah will forgive them in time and through prayer.
This is a very hard decision to make and only you can do this, the only other option you have is to have the baby and maybe be outcast from your community...
I wish I could help you more, hopefully some one else will come back to your question, who will be a muslim and know the facts of where you stand regarding the hereafter.
Blessings
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Ultra Member
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Aug 11, 2008, 09:28 PM
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Originally Posted by fai_23
I am a muslim women, and im not proud to say im pregnant from adultery.Ive never been so confused in my life i don't know what to do.Abortion has crossed my mind but i dnt think its the right way to go.what ive done is haram i know,will allah (swt) forgive me and what should i do? whats my punishment for the hereafter?
Assalaam alaikum sister,
Asthaqfirullah! It is a grave sin,but as you have realised your mistake, you are already on a path to repentance.
Continue to do Salah,recite the Quran,keep praying for forgiveness from the Most Merciful and never go back to Zina.
Do good deed that Allah loves,Insha Allah, He forgives those who repent with a sincere heart for sins committed.
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“Say: O ‘Ibaadi (My slaves) who have transgressed against themselves (by committing evil deeds and sins)! Despair not of the Mercy of Allaah, verily, Allaah forgives all sins. Truly, He is Oft‑Forgiving, Most Merciful”[ Surah al-Zumar 39:53]
"Shaykh Ibn Baaz (may Allaah have mercy on him) was asked about a married woman who had three children, and she became pregnant with a fourth child as the result of zina. Is it permissible for her to abort the foetus, or should she keep it? If she keeps it, should she tell her husband or not? And what should the husband do in this case?
He replied: It is not permissible for her to abort the foetus. What she has to do is repent to Allaah and not disclose this matter. The child belongs to her husband, because the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “The child belongs to the (marital) bed, and the adulterer gets nothing.” May Allaah set all our affairs straight. End quote.
Fataawa al-Shaykh Ibn Baaz (21/205). "
Islam Question and Answer - She committed zina and got pregnant from a stranger. What should she do?
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Repentance for <i>Zina</i> - IslamonLine.net - Ask The Scholar
The Door of Repentance Is Wide Open - IslamonLine.net - Ask The Scholar
Islam Question and Answer - Abortion of a foetus resulting from a zina relationship
Wa alaikum salaam
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Junior Member
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Aug 11, 2008, 10:12 PM
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Hey sweetie, I'm not muslim, but I do have some friends that are, I was also myself in a problem almost like this. I grew up in a very strict cristian home and at 15 I fell pregnant. I chose to have the baby because I felt I didn't have the right to take its life because of someone else's sin. In doing this though I was cast out from my family and church and have since lost my faith. I know also that you probably can't tell your family, so this will be the hardest thing in the world for you. What I did was got a pen and paper and wrote all the good things and all the bad things for if I keept the baby, then made my choice. I hope you will be OK, your in my thoughts.
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New Member
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Aug 19, 2008, 04:06 AM
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Hey
It would be a hard decsision for you to make in keeping or aborting the child
Just know that god is forgiving and have faith
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Aug 22, 2008, 02:23 AM
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Hello fai_23
Originally Posted by fai_23
I am a muslim women, and im not proud to say im pregnant from adultery.Ive never been so confused in my life i don't know what to do.Abortion has crossed my mind but i dnt think its the right way to go.what ive done is haram i know,will allah (swt) forgive me and what should i do? whats my punishment for the hereafter?
You do not specify your personal position and views in life, other than being Muslima.
Secular considerations :
Are you married (does your husband know?) , or bachelor. Where do you live? How would your family and friends react most probably if this is found out? Does the biological father already know, and what is his reaction? If bachelor, is the biological father willing to take care of the consequences? And if so, what would you be willing to do?
Moral considerations :
Personally I am against abortion. But I can understand that sometimes the living conditions force women into abortion. Could you "Move out for some time" till the baby is born and than have the baby adopted?
Religious considerations :
In most religions "God/Allah" forgives those who repent with a sincere heart for sins committed. If you do not believe that too, there is little use of considering anything else.
As Secular Humanist I can not assist you any further in these considerations.
For any other comments or advice, just answer my various queries.
Good luck to you.
:)
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New Member
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Sep 5, 2008, 04:29 PM
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Originally Posted by fai_23
I am a muslim women, and im not proud to say im pregnant from adultery.Ive never been so confused in my life i don't know what to do.Abortion has crossed my mind but i dnt think its the right way to go.what ive done is haram i know,will allah (swt) forgive me and what should i do? whats my punishment for the hereafter?
The only sin Allah will not forgive is associating partners with him (Suratu nisai) May Allah forgive you.Continue seeking His repentance and do good acts.
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Sep 14, 2008, 06:18 PM
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Apart from Shirk (associating anyone with Allah), all sins can be forgiven by Allah, as long as you repent what you have done and have the intention of not doing anything of the sort again.
Abortion is not the right way to go. You will probably have a tough time telling your family and may even be cast out... but whatever happens you need to hold firm to your belief as you would be paying the price of your deeds in this world, so you are all good for the hereafter.
I hope and pray Allah makes things easy for you.
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Junior Member
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Sep 16, 2008, 08:49 AM
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May Allah (swt) forgive you for the mistake you have made. Ask forgivness from Allah as much as you can, he is the most merciful, he forgives all the sins (but shirk) if one seeks his forgiveness from the bottom or his or her heart and promise not to do this kind of mistake in the future. This is the month of Ramadan, you should pray to him and ask for forgiveness as much as you can, and seek his help to direct you to the right path.
I am not sure what to tell you about the baby, the for sure, abortion is not allowed in Islam (or any religion if I am not wrong). If you think your family will not accept you at all once you disclose this to them and you are not in the position to take the huge reponsibility of a newborn human being. I would say contact somebody in your community, who you think will be helpful (imam of your area masjid, or sisters), they can suggest you something better or may be provide you shelter, or even help you to convice your parents to accept you.
May Allah direct you to the right path, and help you with this problem. (Ameen)
May Allah forgive me, if I suggested you something wrong.
hadi88.
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