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    Jun 23, 2013, 04:59 PM
    Intercaste marriage
    My father is against intercaste marriage. I and my boyfriend belong to different caste but of the same level. We both are dentist. Financially we are from different level. Both f us preparing fr higher studies so we both don't earn. My father have a issue on the grounds that he is intercaste, financially below our level(but he is also rich), he don't earn,my huge (joint) family won't accept him. Etc
    I'm d only child. We have a discussion on this topic several times but he is not ready. He is upset, angry and even willing to bring another child (adoption) if I go against him. What shul I do. I love my boyfriend and cnt live without him. I love my parent as well. Cnt even imagine my world without them.
    I know I have to choose one... but I'm in a grt dilema how to convince my father
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    Jun 23, 2013, 05:31 PM
    You keep asking this question over and over... you already had 4 answers on your original thread... and mods deleted several other ones you created.

    You have two choices... do what you want and upset your parents... or listen to your parents and find someone they agree with.

    You can't have everything you want in life... welcome to the adult world... you have to decide who you are going to upset... because you can't make everyone happy.
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    Jun 23, 2013, 05:36 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by smoothy View Post
    You keep asking this question over and over....you already had 4 answers on your original thread...and mods deleted several other ones you created.

    You have two choices...do what you want and upset your parents....or listen to your parents and find someone they agree with.

    You can't have everything you want in life....welcome to the adult world....you have to decide who you are going to upset...because you can't make everyone happy.
    Is there any way to convince my parents?
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    Jun 23, 2013, 05:39 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by jozzy View Post
    is there any way to convince my parents?
    Only you know them well enough... some can't be... a few only if you can make a good enough argument to convince them... however only you know if its going to be incredibly difficult or impossible.

    Your parents see things you can't... because you are in lust... you are blind to many things they see wrong.
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    Jun 23, 2013, 05:39 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by jozzy View Post
    is there any way to convince my parents?
    No. You are going to have to choose -- boyfriend or family.
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    Jun 23, 2013, 05:40 PM
    Yes... odds are she will have to choose who she upsets... very rarely do we as adults get to have it both ways...
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    Jun 23, 2013, 05:57 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by smoothy View Post
    Yes.....odds are she will have to choose who she upsets....very rarely do we as adults get to have it both ways....
    I chose my boyfriend. But the thing is that I'm d only child. So my parent are emotionally blackmailing me. Sm times they are angry. Sm times they curse me and my boyfriend . I have given every single details f my boyfriend to get them verified but they didn't do.
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    Jun 23, 2013, 06:08 PM
    Your parents are set in their ways, in tradition, and maybe will come around a bit once there are grandchildren, but also may never accept him as your husband.

    Please do not text.
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    Jun 23, 2013, 06:14 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by Wondergirl View Post
    Your parents are set in their ways, in tradition, and maybe will come around a bit once there are grandchildren, but also may never accept him as your husband.

    Please do not text.
    Thanks. Fr your suggestion... I am set. What I have to do. Let time heals evry thing...
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    Jun 23, 2013, 06:19 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by jozzy View Post
    thanx. fr ur suggestion.... i am set. wht i have to do. let time heals evry thing......
    TIme doesn't heal everything... there are some things that never heal... and many people that never forget...

    Life will be hard without your parents. And odds are you go against them.. and you will get no help form them. That's the reality of life... everyone doesn't have to like.. accept or agree with the actions you choose... and the actions you take... are actions you have to accept the responsibilities and costs for making them. As an adult you are not entitled to having someone save you when you make mistakes like they did when you were a child.
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    Jun 23, 2013, 09:56 PM
    I will consider that also. Lets see what time and fortune unfold for me.

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