Hi,

This boy at school has been continually nasty to me for the last few weeks, at first I reacted to his comments, but over the last few days I have started to ignore him,
Is this the best way to get him to leave me alone?

Jack

The best way, in my opinion, to get him to leave you alone is to show no fear. That is what bullies feed on. They like it when someone is afraid of them or when they get a rise out of you.
I would continue to ignore this person. You are doing to right thing.

A bully is someone who is physically endangering you, usually. If this person is just saying rude things, they're just a pest. Ignore them.

My son had a bully last year and the beginning of this year same person This boy started only saying rude, snide remarks to my son... was worse when his friends was around... later on started throwing stuff at him chips, sunflower seeds etc. Even in the middle of class he began harassing him.
Well my son said the boy does a lot of people that way as far as saying things to them. So He ignored him last year as this was the latter part of their jr. year.
The beginning of this year he would frequently come home angry and I could tell he was getting unhappier by the day. He finally told me who it was.
I knew the kid and kind of know his parents what country they are from and their likes and dislikes. My advice to him was to turn it around on him. Get him when he first walks in the door.etc.. I even told him things to say. A week or so of this solved the problem.
I just knew that the words... to throwing things was only going to fuel him and he would pretty soon start hitting him.
Another thing my son said was when a kid starts stuff in front of their friends when he catches them alone he ask says "ok it's you and me you want to go, if not shut up and leave me alone.
I have 3 kids in high school and they attend a very large school and they say bullying is so common. That there is always someone saying rude and mean things to you... that sometimes it is just best to let it go but when it starts getting worse or they are following them around that is when it has to be taken to another level.

Yes I have even had to go to the teachers and once to the police after a kid tried to play chicken with my youngest son while he was walking down the street. This boy swerved the car in his direction... not really intending to hit him only scare him... but there were witnesses and skid marks... btw this had been a verbal bullying situation that had been going on for awhile.
What I am saying is just don't let it get too far out of hand, speak with your parents if you think he is intending to harm you.

When I was in grade school, a long long time ago, I took matters into my own hands. Kicked the guy between the legs. No more problems. I had had enough.

There are 3 main types of bullying:

Verbal Bullying: Verbal Bullying is where the bully calls you names and makes threats etc...

Mental Bullying: Mental Bullying is where the bully use's abusive language towards you.

Physical Bullying: Physical Bullying is where the bully physically hurts you. This can include pushing, punching, and kicking etc...

So I would say this boy is bullying me, JBeaucaire as it is persistent...

OK, all the advice everyone's given appears to stay the same, though. If he's not endangering you, keep away from him, no point in making it more than it is. If it becomes more, you will have to try another tack.

In school bullies have been a problem for years. If you feel like this bully will do you harm you should consult with your consular at school. From my understanding the education board has a zero tolerance for bullies. If this does not work I would recommend for you to talk to your parents about this and see if they can contact the principle about the matter. If that does nothing for you and it gets worse. I would then contact the principle and inform him/her that you are reporting this to the Education board regarding this matter and what the bully did in retaliation. Have you talked to your parents about this?

I was in junior high in the early 90s, back when they didn't crack down on bullies. I was pushed into my locker daily, verbally abused, you name it. I told the teachers, and back then they didn't do anything about it. I almost failed because of these people. It made my life miserable.

Hun, you have the right to a good education and to feel good about yourself, to walk through the halls and not be disrespected, to not be touched or hurt in anyway. Stand up for yourself and nip this in the a$$ right now and go to the principal's office. If it keeps continuing, then keep going. Trust me... bully's don't go away if you ignore them. They keep at it, until they have you walking with your head down and taking different routes just to avoid them. They don't take stuff like this lightly anymore, so do something about it.

P.S. Thought I might add that violence isn't the way to solve this either.

Is he actually physically hurting you? If so, then get someone to do something about this.

If he's just making fun of you... in MY experience, ignoring has done little to nothing for me. I was bit of a smartass, so I found out that my bully had trouble reading. He was in 8th grade and was reading at a 3rd grade level. So... during one class project, I picked him to be my partner, and he was thrilled thinking he would do no work. So... during class presentation, I made him read the entire thing. The ENTIRE thing. Took him an hour to read 2 paragraphs, and the entire class started to make fun of him. Then he stopped bullying altogether.

You don't have to "fight back" by yelling at him or physically fighting him, but if you find a way to degrade and humiliate him on his weakness, it's fantastic.

Note: don't do this if you think that he'll start to physically hurt you.

I drop out of high school I quit

I'm sorry, I have to disagree with the "no violence" answers.

Bully's rely on fear to get their jollies, no fear and they find another victim.

If it is just words, ignore them, laugh at the bully and his stupidity, but, if it ever gets to anything physical, with the bully initiating the first blow, push, shove or kick, then you need to haul off and bust him in the nose, or a swift kick between the legs would be a good option too.

You got to be ready to fight though, not just a punch and run, I'm betting it will be over with your first punch or kick, but it could go further so you may want to practice defending yourself with a friend.

Once there is no obvious fear on your part, this chump will leave you alone.

It's easy for others to say that violence is not the answer, but I'm betting those people have never really been bullied. I have, and what I have suggested here, worked for me.

Good Luck to you!

I was bullied in high school too, for the 5years I was there this girl bullied me mentally, physically and verbally. My only advise to you is, if this boy is shouting things. Don't shout back. This was my mistake. If things get more serious, like if he touches you in anyway then you HAVE to go the your headmaster or a teacher, anyone. They can do something. I was put into separate classes to this girl, there wasn't much else that could be done for me because I had already made my mistake. Good luck. Don't let him touch you. X

I agree, I too was bullied, but in elementary school, and it's important to show no fear
And better yet, to full on confront them on the problem, to stand up for yourself. If that
Doesn't work, get teachers and the school administration/principal/v.p. involved.

In MY case, we had the POLICE involved because of one incedent.