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    Oct 9, 2013, 10:34 PM
    I hate school and my home life, what do I do exactly?
    I go to a "prestigious" selective entry school that was hard to get into and is really hard to be present at. It's really academic and there is a lot of work, only I hate all of it. All the work is irrelevant to life and all the things they teach are the kind of things I would never want my to be a part of my life. I have lots of friends at the school and many teachers are really nice, but I hate it with a passion. I don't want to be there and I would rather leave but there's no way I can, my parents have made that very clear to me. If I tried to leave I would be in the biggest of my life and my parents would most likely disown me.
    I really want to drop out now and move out seeing as that is my only option, if my parents moved me to a different school I would actually stick to it and finish my schooling but they would never do that so this is my only option for the moment. At home I have to do countless chores and take care of my grump of a 66 year old dad and deal with my 19 year old brother who has extreme anger issues (derived from my dad). I'm just sick of it, I get barely any freedom (compared to every other teenager I know) and the freedom I do get is treated as if my dad is the most lenient person on the world for giving it to me. I could live on my own very easily I know that much, I'm currently 16 years old. The only reason I haven't left yet is because I would never want to disappoint my mother who lives in Africa. She doesn't seem to understand me or what I want at all, and school is the only answer to life in my parent's eyes, but if we only go to school to secure a future job why am I there? Nothing they teach has to do with anything I would want to do when I'm older and schooling and studying is not what I want. I've stayed at this school for almost 2 years now (even though I've never stopped asking to be moved to a different school for the whole 2 years) I'm still here, I only do it because everyone keeps telling me it's the right thing to do, it's impressive, if I make it through they will really respect me, if I leave I'm throwing away a golden opportunity. But an opportunity for what? Having a well paying office job? Having a remarkable academic backround? Getting paid more than people that went to different schools? NONE OF THAT INTERESTS ME! I don't care at all about money or making more than others, I think the point of life is happiness. If there's happiness in what I do then I don't care if I'm poor. Though I'm not an idiot either, I have a good mind and if I use it right I could make all the money I need in ways that would make me happy. I just want my own freedom and my own life.

    My last resort if I really have to stay at this hell hole and if I actually somehow make it through will be to move out at 18 and not care anymore. I will probably lose ties to my family for a while because of their disappointment in me but I will start my life then. But I will have missed out on 2 years of building my life, since if I leave now and if I leave when I'm 18 will mean that either way I'm starting form scratch. At least leaving now will keep my mind in a healthier state than going somewhere I disdain for two more years and living under my oppressive father until I'm 18.
    I even have many friends that would take me in for a while as well, I could find my feet in my own time and in my own life, I've been beckoning myself to do this for over a year now, I just hadn't had the courage to make such a drastic life move. My mother is the only thing keeping me at bay, but it's so unfair, she doesn't understand me, I haven't lived with her since I was 11.
    Everyone around me thinks staying at this school is the right thing, but inside myself I know that the 1 thing I've wanted to do for a while now is just leave it. Staying at this school is against my personal beliefs and 100% against what I want for myself. Right now I'm just listening to those around me and completely going against what I want for myself, is that right? Is it wrong? I don't know what to do, I keep this question locked up inside my head but it always rears itself at any opportunity to leave. I just want to move out. Please I need some real proper guidance from real people, not fake people that have a persona that's pretty much generic and pre determined by society... Pardon the conspiracy theory but I actually need some wisdom.
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    Oct 9, 2013, 11:04 PM
    Welcome to life and to sound rude, get a life and get over it. You are 16 you have no real idea what you will do in life,no idea what life really is.

    You will learn countless things though high school, college and perhaps a masters degree, if you understand the importance.

    Few people do a job connected to their major, even in college your idea and goals in life will change.

    All of those useless facts may be of great importance latter,or when you are older.

    I studied law, worked for justice department, to find out I love to teach, thank God for my high school English teachers, who taught me all of that useless grammar, not only did it allow me to write college papers, but to be a fairly good English teacher now.

    So you learn a lesson, at 16 you do not know anything, but you think you know everything, you start listening better to adults and learn as much of that useless information as you can.
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    Oct 9, 2013, 11:29 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by Fr_Chuck View Post
    Welcome to life and to sound rude, get a life and get over it. you are 16 you have no real idea what you will do in life,no idea what life really is.

    You will learn countless things though high school, college and perhaps a masters degree, if you understand the importance.

    Few people do a job connected to their major, even in college your idea and goals in life will change.

    all of those useless facts may be of great importance latter,or when you are older.

    I studied law, worked for justice department, to find out I love to teach, thank God for my high school English teachers, who taught me all of that useless grammar, not only did it allow me to write college papers, but to be a fairly good English teacher now.

    So you learn a lesson, at 16 you do not know anything, but you think you know everything, you start listening better to adults and learn as much of that useless information as you can.
    I don't intend to offend but, from what I've read you are just about the opposite of what I want to become in life. You seem a bit eluded of the real meaning of life and only care about what's superficial.

    I know myself and I know a lot of adults on this earth, I can quite easily say I know more about life than a lot of adults. If you disagree with this statement, please ask me a question about an important aspect of life you think I have no knowledge of and I will try give you my best answer and let you judge whether I'm an ignorant 16 year old that hates school or whether I have a proper argument that has been put through my mind time and time again. -.-
    p.s. your answer is very unhelpful I'm not so sure why you chose to write it? Other than to try sound as if you are above some kid on the internet that is asking for genuine help.
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    Oct 10, 2013, 05:09 AM
    LOL, yeah right, you need to get your education, and work hard at him, that is life, I write it because you sound like a ignorant child who needs to have been put over someone's knee years ago and learn some manners and respect.

    Your only argument is that you believe you are smarter than all the adults in your life. You think, and that shows the lack of knowledge that running away will somehow fix anything.

    Some life is harder than others, it appears someone has worked hard to get you into the better schools, that you have no respect for. It appears they expect you to do the duties of a child and help care for a elderly parent.

    It appears they expect you to do all the same work as every other child in that school, but you do not want to.

    You also lie, you said you wanted the non bias opinion of other adults, well this is it, and will be the opinion of almost all of them, But NO, what you wanted was just someone else to agree with you, guess what, it is not going to happen. I raised 5 children, have 8 grandchildren, and current work as a Professor at a University. So I know children.
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    Oct 10, 2013, 08:41 AM
    Honestly, you sound like a kid that has everything lined up and waiting for you but you're too spoiled to care. You do not know more than adults. You think you do but you don't. You have a high-end school but can't deal with it because why? They make you learn stuff that you feel you have no need to learn? Deal with it. That's how things go. In 2 short years, you'll be free of school and able to destroy your life any way that you choose to. For now, just go with it.
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    Oct 10, 2013, 09:13 AM
    Just like elementary school, high school is another step upward on the education ladder, giving you important building blocks. Please tell me (us) what courses you are taking now that you don't think are important.

    What country are you in? How would you support yourself at 16 if you quit school?
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    Oct 30, 2013, 01:34 AM
    First off, I was "put over someone's knee" years ago and all my child hood. I have complete respect for adults and I do know my manners. It's just you think you know my father, when in fact you would literally have no idea of the kind of man he is (or used to be before he got somewhat old). The one that has worked hard to put me into higher schools is myself. I'm the one who told my father I was interested in attending the prestigious school and I'm the one who asked to be sent to tutoring for the entrance exam. My father wasn't the one who attended tutoring itself and applied himself to the work given. I sat a 5 hour exam with a single 15 minute break and I was accepted to the most prestigious school in my city.
    if you are a professor and you've raised so many children how could you not see I was in a state of distress when I wrote this? Obviously I have a somewhat decent intellect and I was stating these flawed ludicrous opinions. Instead of understanding me and telling me to just think properly at what I was saying, you instead decided to attack me verbally and constantly put me down? Yes because that is the only way to get to a child's mind isn't it?
    I sincerely hope you did not raise your own children like this.
    I'm not quitting school, I'm not running away and I can cope fine with me work.
    I just had some personal issues that I've resolved on my own as usual.
    But thank you for your unhelpful efforts that were there to only put me down, I greatly appreciate wasting your time -.-
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    Oct 30, 2013, 02:33 AM
    If you hadn't come across as a snotty nosed brat in your original post, you would not have received the answers you didn't like.

    Think about it and get a life and while you are at it, seeing as you are ONLY SIXTEEN, apologize to the good people here who bothered responding to your rant. You don't know what the word RESPECT means apparently.
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    Oct 31, 2013, 01:28 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by tickle View Post
    If you hadn't come across as a snotty nosed brat in your original post, you would not have received the answers you didn't like.

    Think about it and get a life and while you are at it, seeing as you are ONLY SIXTEEN, apologize to the good people here who bothered responding to your rant. You don't know what the word RESPECT means apparently.
    Mate, I had a lot of on my plate when I wrote that. You know nothing of my life and how far I was pushed to even write something like that publicly, the fact that you're calling me a snotty nosed brat because I was in serious distress is absolutely rude. I wish people in this world could just be kind and compassionate to each other before they judge someone unknowingly of their situation and proceed to put them down :/. I am not going to apologize for taking offence to people speaking their mind towards me just because I am 16 and just because they will never see me in person. Though I do greatly appreciate the reply I got that was understanding and kind, I honestly have a deep appreciation for that post and the person that wrote it. Hate and rudeness is never the answer, especially when you're trying to do it to "help" someone, because as you can see the only response to hate and rudeness is more of the same. I'll delete this post soon enough, so don't worry about ever having to speak to me again -.-
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    Oct 31, 2013, 03:05 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by Trayflip View Post
    Mate, I had a lot of on my plate when I wrote that. You know nothing of my life and how far I was pushed to even write something like that publicly, the fact that you're calling me a snotty nosed brat because I was in serious distress is absolutely rude. I wish people in this world could just be kind and compassionate to each other before they judge someone unknowingly of their situation and proceed to put them down :/. I am not going to apologize for taking offence to people speaking their mind towards me just because I am 16 and just because they will never see me in person. Though I do greatly appreciate the reply I got that was understanding and kind, I honestly have a deep appreciation for that post and the person that wrote it. Hate and rudeness is never the answer, especially when you're trying to do it to "help" someone, because as you can see the only response to hate and rudeness is more of the same. I'll delete this post soon enough, so don't worry about ever having to speak to me again -.-
    Rude, well that is a matter of opinion. Yours doesn't count.

    I don't think you can delete your post.;(
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    Nov 26, 2013, 04:40 AM
    Fair enough Mr. Tickle, everyone is always entitled to their opinions.
    Yeah you're right, I can't delete it :/
    Oh well
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    Nov 26, 2013, 08:25 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by Trayflip View Post
    Fair enough Mr. Tickle, everyone is always entitled to their opinions.
    Yeah you're right, I can't delete it :/
    Oh well
    A month has gone by. Has anything improved in your life?

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