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    meaghan12 Posts: 2, Reputation: 1
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    Sep 15, 2013, 09:02 AM
    Foster care?
    My life has just fallen apart. My mum and dad got divorced when I was 7, and she remarried and got divorced again last year. Between the two of them I have lost my whole family. I lost my four stepsisters, my uncles, aunts, grandparents, everyone. I have self harmed for about two years, and during the summer (a few weeks ago) I overdosed and had to stay in hospital for three days. I smoke as well. Those things help me to cope with everything that's going on, so please don't say that I shouldn't just because Im 14. On the days that I go to my dads, I'm scared. He hits me occasionally and he is always in a bad mood, it scars me. When I'm at my mums, my brother is violent to me, and punches me etc. he's only 10 but he's strong and it hurts, he's gave me a bust lip with one punch before.My mum hits me too when were fighting sometimes. Everyday we have fightsand arguments. Its not just like a little disagreement that pisses us off, its screaming and they both gang up on me and its unbearable. I can't live like this anymore, and Im scared that if I do then I will end up overdosing again. Before you say that you need to hear both sides of the story and to make sure that I'm not just being unfair to my family, read this. My mum was raped as a child, too young to remember, by her dad. I know this because I read her diary. She also used to cut. She has been on medication to help her stay... sane I guess. I think that foster care would be the best thing. I can't live like this anymore, and I would rather live a happy life with another family than live a sad depressing suicudal one with my blood family. I have a social worker and I don't know how to get intouch with someonoe who can help get me into care.

    Thank you for reading this.

    Im 14 by the way, I have just started my gcse year and don't want to mess things up.
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    Sep 15, 2013, 01:36 PM
    Foster care doesn't mean happy forever after. It could mean an even worse situation since foster parents have absolutely no emotional attachment to you.

    You have a social worker, so why not talk with him/her about all this?
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    Sep 15, 2013, 01:44 PM
    I suggested it to my old coucellor, and she said that its horrible there, and I know that it would be, but I could end up with a lovely family, with no abuse and it would be a fresh start?
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    Sep 15, 2013, 01:59 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by meaghan12 View Post
    I suggested it to my old coucellor, and she said that its horrible there, and I know that it would be, but I could end up with a lovely family, with no abuse and it would be a fresh start?
    The chances of ending up with a lovely family are practically nonexistent. Usually people sign up to foster because of the money, and not to share their love.

    How much do you start and contribute to the fights and arguments?

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