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    bloxingham Posts: 26, Reputation: 2
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    Oct 7, 2009, 12:18 PM
    My Uncle is going to get MURDERED!
    (I'm really not sure where to post this)

    This is a copy of what I wrote to the police department looking for some help. But they haven't written back yet. Let me know what you think.

    Okay, this is kind of weird.

    Here is the situation, my 86 year old Uncle (well great uncle, grandma's brother) is marrying 45 year old woman, in 10 days. They have known each other for about 3 months, and she has only been in USA for about 4. Our family knows NOTHING about her and neither does my Uncle for that matter. But he is in early stages of dementia, so he is blind to the situation. After their wedding they are leaving the country for 6 months.

    The woman lives in a gated community in the city, and works at a fast food restaurant... SHE IS A CASHIER! Man if I could be a cashier and live somewhere like that.. SIGN ME UP! She claims to have twins who are 21 years old. They visited my grandma's house and they are NOT twins. They are both are of different nationalities. (This could not be 100%, but it doesn't look right) & they were sitting MUCH too close, and walked out of my grandmas house 6-7 times through the 2 hours they were there. My sister is fluent in their language, and the girl kept saying to the boy "why arent you smiling"

    We are afraid we will never see him again. What can we do about this? This is a serious topic in our family, and we are thinking about hiring a PI.

    I know this sounds like a joke, but really its not.
    I don't know what we can do..
    & please don't answer if you are going to be rude. We are really worried and my parents don't know what to do.

    Does this scream MSNBC to anyone else?

    Here is an update as of 10 minutes ago. My dad has been trying to help out by having him sign a prenup and all that stuff. And for some reason my uncle thought it would be a good idea to tell her about it. So when he did, she took off the ring and threw it at him. So apparently he called up my dad and said that he isn't going to sign anything because he "doesnt want to lose her''

    NOW what do we do? I was thinking about buying some sort of a gps tracker to put on his car so we will know where she lives. Then we can see if she is a LEGIT person. But I don't even know what to do anymore. They are getting married in 10 days. Then going out of the country. I have a feeling we will never see him again.

    Anything you guys suggest?

    If I go and try to hire a P.I. or something, how do I let them know that we are not kidding. Every person we have told about it thinks we are overreacting. But that is NOT the case..

    As far as money goes, my uncle has a lot of money. He has well over $500,000 in his savings, god only knows how much is in checking or whatever, & he has $30,000 CASH in his basement! Don't have a clue why you would have that kind of money laying around. But His wife died about 3 years ago, and they were money hoarders (not sure what you call them) they would share things off the dollar menu.
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    Oct 7, 2009, 12:23 PM

    He's an adult. If he's not somehow mentally impaired to the extent where you can prove it there is little you can do. In fact, there is nothing you can do. You can, of course, talk to him but apparently that isn't working.

    He's an adult - this is the same as when your 18 year old daughter wants to marry someone you don't approve of - nothing you can do if she's of legal age.

    I don't know what good a LPI would do - apparently he isn't listening and I don't know that anything that turns up will make him listen.

    I have no idea how where she lives and where she works enters into this. What is the connection? A lot of people who are very well off, drive expensive cars, live in exclusive communities, go to work every day - maybe she's bored.
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    Oct 7, 2009, 12:52 PM

    Wait, it the uncle getting married the one with dementia? Judy, if that's the case, does that make him considered to be mentally impaired?
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    Oct 7, 2009, 12:57 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by justcurious55 View Post
    wait, it the uncle getting married the one with dementia? judy, if that's the case, does that make him considered to be mentally impaired?

    It says "early stages" which could a variety of things and might also be a family diagnosis, not a Physician's diagnosis.

    If the family can PROVE is mentally incapable of making legal decisions, yes, they can attempt to have him declared incompetent. Unfortunately those hearings take time and he could very well get married in the meantime. Then the fight is to annul the marriage on his behalf, get any funds he has given/spent/lost returned to him.

    And if worse comes to worse and he dies, then the Will would have to be contested - and that's also a long, thankless, complicated procedure.

    These situations are overall nightmares - but they do happen!
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    Mar 11, 2011, 06:12 AM
    Hi,
    Ya why does a 45 women want to marrying a 86 man?
    I don't believe u.
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    Mar 11, 2011, 08:34 AM

    This is from 2009 - hopefully the person who asked the question has worked through this.

    Please don't use text speak on the legal boards. This is not a chat room.
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    Mar 11, 2011, 11:46 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by JudyKayTee View Post
    This is from 2009 - hopefully the person who asked the question has worked through this.
    Or maybe has been murdered too. :eek:

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