Can anyone help me with this?

Myself and my partner have adopted two children, one of them is legally ours and were just going through court proceedings with the other so have still contact with social workers.

On one visit two social workers came to the house, our link worker and the child's link worker. Before they left the child's link worker said she has something to say to regarding the last visit they attended at our house. This is what was said.
Social worker "when i left your house i left feeling very disturbed and awkward you were tickling your eldest child on the inner thigh i feel this is very inappropriate and i would not do it to my child and there are many more places to tickle children"

This really threw me, I felt so embarrassed and angry, I replied Aw saying there was nothing in it and my family and friends tickle their children in the same way.

She then just said she felt very uncomfortable in what I were doing.

She more or less was saying I was a phedophile the way she was going on. I was very upset, still am. I couldn't eat that whole week after

I discussed this with my partner who was very angry at what she said also. I also asked family and friends as she really made me feel as though I were doing something wrong!

She also asked prior to her concerns if she could see the children's bedroom, which she has already seen before, I felt this was very strange at the time, but I let it go as I thought she was just been nosey.

She also said after, if you had more toys in the room maybe you wouldn't have to tickle the children in that way. We have a separate play room for children all of their own with lots of toys, too many really! Their own TV and even a house rabbit in their so there not lacking anything.

The children are very much loved, always nicely dressed and have everything they want. We spoil our children as we've always wanted them and this was our dream come true. The adoption process is awful and stressing enough without this happening after.

A couple of days after I emailed my link worker and said how unhappy I was, upset and angry and said she more or less called me a phedophile touching up my children. She replied saying she thought I were upset and said things could have been dealt with much better than they should.

We then had a face to face meeting with our link worker myself and my partner and aired our views again saying she more or less called me a phedophile to which she agreed and she Will take this to her manager.

As yet its been three weeks, we've not had any apologies and are still awaiting a reply on the outcome of the meeting.

Question is, can I take legal action for slander against her? Throughout the adoption process we have come across too many incompetent social workers and foster parents, one foster parent let it slip to the biological parents some of our personal information, this breaking the dpa! We just feel we now need to make an example of them.

Thanks for listening! Really appreciate any help.

What country is this?
You really don't have a lot of choice dealing with various levels of competence until you are done with the adoption process. Any 'charges' you want to make are probably going to go against you, at least as far as slander. Revealing information about you by a foster parent is also going to be tough to take action against, because the agency is only marginally responsible for mistakes by foster parents.
And we weren't there to see how you acted with the children, so I for one don't feel that I can address the inner thigh tickling, but these days, with so much concern (some of it overdoing it) about inappropriate behavior, I think you just have to say you meant nothing sexual but won't do it again.
In summary, I would not fight so much. You may lose based on that fact alone, if they want to call you too confrontational.

If you are not using an attorney when dealing with social workers and home inspections. You are making a serious mistake.

Also "airing" your views may make you feel better but it can also cause the social worker to give you a negative home review. You should have keep your mouth shut and waited for a written review to discuss.

If you are not using an attorney when dealing with social workers and home inspections. You are making a serious mistake.

Also "airing" your views may make you feel better but it can also cause the social worker to give you a negative home review. You should have keep your mouth shut and waited for a written review to discuss.

We reside in the UK.

The two social workers both present at both times and our link (social worker) at the time disagreed with her with both the tickling and the things she said. All of this documented on emails.

Good, you have support from two others. Let them handle it now. You really need to be careful, at least until the adoption is completed.
Many of us here are in the US, but I don't think it's much different in the UK... a social worker with an agenda and love of power can make the process extremely difficult.