Originally Posted by ashleyg23
If both parents agree the child can be placed with a third party. If "people in the military" give custody to another individual and it's challenged in Court by the parent the natural parent will win over the "other individual" unless the natural parent for whatever reason is unfit or unavailable - and that includes also being deployed.
You can appoint your partner to be the guardian. I said that you can. I also said that it won't hold up in Court IF challenged by the natural parent.
Sometimes the birth father is unknown; sometimes the birth father is deceased; sometimes the birth father doesn't care. If one of those is your situation, give guardianship to your partner BUT be ready for that guardianship to be challenged if/when your partner takes over.
I've worked in the legal system for a very long time - I'm not just blowing smoke. You can argue all you want but I am telling you what the law is and how it works.
If you can show me case law where one parent gives guardianship to a third party, the other parent contests (and is not unavailable or unfit) and guardianship remains with the third party we'll have something to discuss.
Until then - that's how it works.