So... you had a sperm donor? They sign over their rights when they donate at the clinic.
Oh wait--you mean the guy that was good enough to have sex with isn't good enough to be a father. Does that make people who chose adoption just "donors" too?
Please be careful with your language. I know you don't really mean it, but your anger and bitterness toward one man has just insulted thousands of people who do a wonderful thing by donating eggs and sperm--and by placing children for adoption.
Now--as to adoption: If you cannot prove that he is a danger to the child, then no, you can't take away his rights without his permission. How would you like it if HE could take away YOUR rights just because he didn't like you?
If he wants to keep his rights, then fine. Go to court and get a court order for child support--and KEEP going after him for support.
Your child will know that biology doesn't necessarily mean that someone loves you best (as his step-father will love him with no legal ties), and that it's not HIS fault that his biological father isn't around.
Your animosity toward the biological father is, however, inappropriate around your son. Like it or not, you place him in a position where he has to choose when you do that, and that's not fair. Whatever faults the man had, you were at one point in like/lust/love with him enough to have sex with him. Take responsibility for that, and stop being so bitter that he isn't being the person you want him to be.
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