Hi please help me I have been apart from my sons father for now on 12 years I was married to my sons father but have now been re married for 10 years now and my husband now plays a very big part in my sons live my son is in the process of being diagnosed with (adha) that is Attention deficit hyperactivity disorder I have been says this to my ex husband for years now but has or is just not interested or does not want to hear about it my ex husband does see his son in the school holidays as me and my family now live in derbyshire my son has asked his real dad to phone him every night but he rings when he feels like it and my son has now got to the point that he does not want to see his real dad anymore and that he wants his name changed to the family name as he does not feel that he is part of the family unit my ex has not come to any of the meetings that have taken place at my sons school my son sees his (step dad) as his real dad as he has been though a lot with him and is still and always be there for him my son has not just said about him changing his name over the last few weeks he has said it for years now and that he has asked me why his real dad does not love him and I have told him that he does love him in his own way my son needs a lot of support at the minute and not abuse in the fact that when my son did not want to tell him why he had been excluded from school for the second time now. His real dad turned round and said well until you tell why you have been excluded I am not going to ring you any more that is not want my son needs at this minute in time he needs a lot of love and support and understanding and not to keep being rejected by his real dad please give me some advice on how to go on with this many thanks.

Wow. Only two pieces of punctuation in all of that. Gives me a headache.

You mentioned Derbyshire. You are in the UK?

I would consider adoption, but I really don't know how it operates over there. Here, you would need the consent of the biological father. If you can get that consent, step-parent adoption isn't that difficult.

First its not a good idea to piggyback your question on someone else's. This can lead to confusion. You should start a new thread. So I've moved your question to its own thread.

Second, When posting a question, please take some time to compose your question so its readable and we can nderstand what help you need. I'm sorry but your post is so rambling without any semblance of sentence structure its hard to tell what you want help with. So please clarify.