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impalacon · Aug 3, 2006, 12:49 PM

My daughter has a 1 yr. old son and she is married to my grandson's father. My daughter will let me see my grandson but her husband says that I cannot see him. I cared for this child from the day he was born until just before his
1st birthday and now I am denied the right to see him. What are my rights as well as my daughter's rights. In order not to fight with her husband my daughter goes along with what he says even though she doesn't agree. Do I have any legal ground? I live in VA, and they moved to OH, about 2 months ago. Prior to that they resided in VA also.

Doublell · Aug 3, 2006, 01:11 PM

I don't know if you have seen my writings today but I have the same problem only with my biological daughter. She won't let me see my grandaughter but my situation is only a few days old. Great site to be for good advice, I don't know maybe its because from people that don't know the dynamics but it certainly makes sense to me, the advice I have been given. Personally I know in Florida you do have rights but don't know where you live. Is that something you want to disclose---someone could find ou tfor sure

ScottGem · Aug 3, 2006, 01:18 PM

I would strongly suggest consulted an attorney who specializes in family law. I don't think there is much you can do. Most of what I've read, the courts have not upheld the rights of grandparents.

Doublell · Aug 3, 2006, 01:30 PM

Scottgem were you answering me or the original author

excon · Aug 3, 2006, 01:33 PM

Hello imp:

Grandparents rights are evolving. Even if you don't live in a state that recognizes them today, they might tomorrow. It could be your case that makes the law. If you have the money and stamina, sue.

excon

CaptainForest · Aug 3, 2006, 08:08 PM

I believe your best bet would be to talk with your daughter privately and get her to stand up to her husband.

ScottGem · Aug 4, 2006, 05:48 AM

Originally Posted by Doublell

scottgem were yu answering me or the original author

Both.

K_3 · Aug 4, 2006, 06:00 AM

Check with a lawyer. And don't stop with the first, check a couple more and see what you can do. I have a friend who's daughter decied she could not see her grandson. She asked her lawyer and he said not much she could do. Someone gave her a name of a lawyer in another town. This lady said there was and had a temp court order within 10 days. She was able to pick up her grandson and has been able to get him once a week and he spends the night with them. She has taken him camping with them also. They have a court date set for next month. Do pursue it.

I don't know why children do that to their parents. Grandparents are such an important part of the little one's lives.

impalacon · Aug 4, 2006, 06:32 AM

Thanks to all of you for your replies and suggestions. My daughter was suppose to have been here this morning with my grandson (I snuck her the money to do so) but of course, she isn't here. I don't know how to make her stand up to her husband. She seems terrified for lack of a better description. I've asked her what she is afraid of and she says "nothing". I don't believe her. I plan to consult an attorney in this matter. I live in VA and up until 2 months. Ago, my daughter, son-in-law and grandson were residents of VA also. I sure hope I have some recourse. I miss this little guy so much!

ScottGem · Aug 4, 2006, 06:37 AM

One thing really bothers me here, that your daughter is so "terrified" of her husband. That is a signal of an abusive husband. It may be necessary to get social services involved. Though there is little that can be done if she doesn't sign a complaint.

K_3 · Aug 4, 2006, 06:44 AM

You need concrete evidence before getting child services involved. If her husband guesses you called them, it could be ugly. If you do find there is, that can help your case with the lawyer. In this state you can get guardianship custody. This is where you can check the child anytime you want, if you feel there is a problem. It does not mean you raise the child, but you can make decisions for his welfare. You do have to prove there is a need for that.

GramaMe · Apr 5, 2011, 10:04 AM

Well I am having a similar problem except that its my biological son.. His wife has deemed me the cause of all their problems and is trying to isolate me from my grandkids and its an ongoing threat to me not to see my grandkids.. If I buy more for one I'm bad .They have the little girl so afraid to say anything when she come over.. She grills her to death when she goes homeand makes up things I sopposedly said about her to the grandaughter.I have taken great pains to NOT talk about her period. I don't understand why she has it out for me but seems I'm going to have a continuos fight on my hands and my son will not stand up to her no matter. I live in California and am just looking into grama rights