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mamabevi5 · Jul 3, 2007, 06:17 PM

My son pays child support, which is taken out of his check each week, but he has not been allowed to see his 8 year old daughter for several months now. I am sure that when the court ordered the child support, visitation was included. He has been separated from his wife for roughly 5 years, and it was her that wanted it, yet she refuses to complete the papers for the divorce. We have discussed the possibility of my son giving up his parental rights to stop the feud with the ex. How does he get this process started in the state of Washington? Also, once his daughter turns 18, will she have the right to look for and contact him? Our family is tired of the constant battle with the mother and hearing everything wrong being blamed on my son. Any input would be most welcome!

always_hot · Jul 3, 2007, 06:30 PM

I understand the situation must be very stressful but is it really worth giving up the child? Is your son interested in trying to get custody?

Fr_Chuck · Jul 3, 2007, 07:56 PM

You also know that he will still have to pay child support even if he gives up his rights. One has nothing to do with the other.

If he is not getting visits, he has to keep taking her back to court.

But yes it is a constant battle and will be for years, but a child is worth it

shawntikarice · Jul 5, 2007, 10:14 AM

My 13 year old son is extremely disrespect towards me and other adults. He has stolen my car and was on a high speed police chase. I'm pressing charges against him. He is now in a shelter, where he ran from. My mother took him to the shelter to turn himself in. Now I'm in a custody battle with my mother, who doesn't work. My son wants to live with my mother. I feel like my fighting is in vain. Our next court hearing is August 13 and I'm going to ask the judge to allow my son to move with my mother, but I want to give up my parental rights. In the state of Pennsylvania will I still be ordered to pay child support?

spgray853 · Jul 5, 2007, 10:28 AM

Originally Posted by mamabevi5

My son pays child support, which is taken out of his check each week, but he has not been allowed to see his 8 year old daughter for several months now. I am sure that when the court ordered the child support, visitation was included. He has been separated from his wife for roughly 5 years, and it was her that wanted it, yet she refuses to complete the papers for the divorce. We have discussed the possibility of my son giving up his parental rights to stop the feud with the ex. How does he get this process started in the state of Washington? Also, once his daughter turns 18, will she have the right to look for and contact him? Our family is tired of the constant battle with the mother and hearing everything wrong being blamed on my son. Any input would be most welcome!

Giving up parental rights, does not necesssarially mean giving up parental responsibilities, like child support. If the court has issued an interim order for support and visitation, then she may be in contempt of that order by blocking visits. You would have to file a complaint with the court. Talk to a Lawyer!

mamabevi5 · Jul 7, 2007, 08:18 AM

Originally Posted by Fr_Chuck

You also know that he will still have to pay child support even if he gives up his rights. One has nothing to do with the other.

If he is not getting visits, he has to keep taking her back to court.

But yes it is a constant battle and will be for years, but a child is worth it

Thank you for your answer. We have determined that my son will continue to do his best to maintain contact with his daughter until he can afford to get a lawyer. Until then he will take what time he can get with her, if any. I think he is getting a promotion at work so that may speed things up!

dunno · Jul 7, 2007, 09:03 AM

Originally Posted by mamabevi5

Thank you for your answer. We have determined that my son will continue to do his best to maintain contact with his daughter until he can afford to get a lawyer. Until then he will take what time he can get with her, if any. I think he is getting a promotion at work so that may speed things up!

We found a great lawyer that let us pay her only $250 up front and then make payments after that. Check around your area. There might be an attorney that will take the case for little money up front. Just start calling around! You never know what you might find.

Also there is a book called Divorce Poison. It's about parental alienation and what to do when it happens. I don't know if your son reads much but it's a great book. He could benefit from reading it.