:cool: I'm 18 and living at home no job no car and can't drive. My mother advised me to get in to college because she had a lawsuit pending

With my father for back pay in child support. ;)I enroll and put everything in my name at her request. She won the lawsuit for $35,000.:Dnow

6 months later I have a job she's asking me to leave and I'm in debt. Please help I'm hopeless.:eek: :mad: :o

You will have to sue her. Whether you win or not would not be clear. But if the money was back support it should be used for your support.

She is not very nice. She should have to give you the money for college. Sue her and tell your dad on her!

Seck legal advise from an attorney before jumping into a lawsuit, make sure you have a stand up case against her for all this before you do anything, but yeah, I advise that you sue.

What are you going to sue her for?

You don't get back child support that is her money for raising you, for paying the rent, for paying for food and so on.

What debts did you put in your name? Yours or hers ? If hers, you may sue for that, but basically you have to have something you have to sue her for.

You have NO right

Keep working and get through college, and see if your mom will help. I don't understand why she wants you to quit your job though. Unless it changes her tax status.

You get NADA, she raised you and supported you all that time your dad wasn't sending her child support, what type of debt do you think that put her in? Either way it is HER backpay! Im sure you were not working and supporting yourself while your Dad got $35,000 behind, she probably struggled all those years with no support so now when he is having to pay up, she should get the money... that is just my opinion, but maybe if you were not being so selfish about it, she would help you out with your debts.

While I understand where most of you are coming from, I have to disagree. This girl has a right to try and get that money seeing as her mother basically pushed into college, telling her that finacially she would be fine because they were getting that money, and as soon as the chek rolled in didn't use it for it's intended purpose. The mother is being selfish and that is all their is too it!

HelpMeOrBeHelped disagrees: What about her dad? He needs the money too, but gave her 35 grand for her daughter. So if I give my mom money to buy my dad a gift when she's at a store, is it all right for her to keep it instead?

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While you may disagree with Chuck's response it was not incorrect factually.

Second, I suspect you are a father who doesn't like paying child support. This father didn't "give" the mother money, she had to sue him for it. Chuck has a point in that the money was for BACK support. Presumably money the mother paid out to provide food and shelter for the daughter. So it may have been just a reimbursement.

But there is an extenuating circumstance here. Based on what we have been told the daughter was pushed into going to college, possibly to make mom's case for support stronger. In that circumstance, the money should have been used for college.

Scott, I wouldn't worry about Chucks disagree as it's our Reddie Troll back again!

Surely being BACK pay child support the money should be the mothers, as she has already paid that money out to support you? Its not support for you for now and the future, but to pay her back for the money she has spent but your father didn't pay at the time. If an element of the money was intended for support for you through college, you can try to get that, but for the actual back pay, it is rightfully the mothers. Maybe if your dad had been paying all along for your support, this situation wouldn't have arisen. There is no point telling on her to your father, there isn't a great deal he can do since she had to sue him for the money in the first place (clearly he hadn't intended paying anything toward your support!) Try and get on with your mother, try to come to an arrangement with her with regard to the money, but suing her is a little extreme, and unless a portion of the money was intended for putting you through college when it went to court, I very much doubt you will receive a penny of it through the courts.

Ever think the mom is just greedy. Why'd she wait until after the kid was 18 to sue? Come on guys, serisouly...

How can she be greedy when its supposed to be money he was supposed to pay and that's what she got. I think there is more to the story.

because a good mother would help help her daughter if she randomly got a large sum of money, not kick them out on their rump!

If I read correct she was not kicked out on her rump, but is in college and back support is the mothers, and the father still has to pay child support and help with college. I also think your assuming facts not presented and I think the OP has not told us the entire story. And you sure like to argue with no facts don't you. And please learn how to use the site features.

HELLO? "shes asking me to leave and im in debt"

I call 'em like I see 'em, if you don't like it you are free to put me on your ignore list and then you will no longer have to read what I write, nont that you actually HAVE to in the first place, you just choose to.

I'm not going to sit here and argue with you. You think I'm wrong, okay, gotcha. Don't care. I'm still intitled to reply to the poster of this question regardless if you agree with me or not.

I haven't done anything wrong.

We know very few facts of all of this. Do we know how long the mother had been fighting for the child support she got? You can bet if the dauhgter is 18 now the claim was filed some time ago! Do we know if the father is still paying support? Do we know anything about the relationship between this mother and her daughter? Its great to assume the mother is just a greedy so and so, but we don't know that it isn't the other way around. Don't get me wrong I am a mother and I would help my kids out anyway I can, but we don't know anything about either of these people.

We base our opinions on our own interpretation of the situation, and being human we will all interpret it differently.

Best to agree to disagree, and stay polite about it I think!

Hi,

Your question was Can I sue my mom? You can sue anybody that you want to. But whether you will be successful should be your question. I feel that if your mom promised to use your back child support to help put you through college, she should do just that. If you feel this issue is that important, then you should pursue it. But you have to take into account the ramifications of court action against your mother. Your relationship may be forever broken. Family gatherings will be very uncomfortable. If you can pursue your college career by working and taking out student loans, then join the rest of us and do that. But if you feel in your heart, a lawsuit will be worth sacrificing the relationship you have with your mom, then go for it. But remember that your mom has taken care of you for all these years without the child support your father should have been paying. So that means she provided the support that was missing and now she's using the money for things her money would have been used for. It's a tough situation because even though the money is back child support, she has fronted that money for years for you when your father did not do it. Think about this issue very seriously. Also take into account when you pursue this lawsuit, you will incur lawyer fees in addition to your college costs. Really think about if its worth it.

Another question, if she is in college does that mean that the father is still required to pay child support?
If so and she is now over 18 who is entitled to the support?
If the father paying for college? The mother? Or is she getting grants and scholarships?