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    Hydraulic001 Posts: 7, Reputation: 0
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    Jul 26, 2007, 02:14 AM
    Baby blues
    I have been with my (now ex) girlfriend for a couple of years and after careful planning and consideration decided to start a family, after becoming pregnant in march family life seemed ideal, planning names, choosing nursery colours, buying baby clothes etc.. Everything was fine until early June and now suddenly she wants nothing more to do with me, she has moved out, taken everything we have bought for the baby and completely cut me out of her life, a couple of weeks ago I have now got letters and forms from child support requesting proof of income for maintenance estimation. It has now become clear that my ex g/f wants nothing to do with me, has no intention of ever letting me be a part of our baby's life when it is born and is fully prepared to take my money via child support despite the possibility of me never seeing our child.
    Please advise?
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    Jul 26, 2007, 02:36 AM
    That totally SUCKS!! You need to take this to a court over visitation rights... your baby needs you! Not only your money but you as a father... please don't give up. Do you think she might be suffering post natal depression? I have that myself and it can make you do some very unnessasary things... find someone that she will talk openly to because it seems to be very irratic behaviour and in the end the only person that suffers is the child... Good Luck hope you work something out
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    Jul 26, 2007, 06:45 AM
    Pay the child support and secure your visitations, consult with a lawyer as it will be will worth the expense of defending your rights as a father.
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    Jul 26, 2007, 06:48 AM
    I find it HIGHLY unlikely that she suddenly packed up and left you for no reason at all. Something must have happened that triggered her to leave - unless she was a mentally and emotionally unstable person all those years you were together.
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    Jul 26, 2007, 06:55 AM
    Excuse me, but what makes you think you don't have some rights here? Get an attorney and petition Family Court for joint custody. Unless she can show that you will be a danger to the child, you should be able to get joint custody and, therefore secure some reasonable visitation rights. Your attorney can advise you as to what you can expect. While the child is an infant, you will probably be limited to short visits. As she gets older you can get overnights. Then even longer.

    You are the child's father, this was not an unplanned child. You can show that you were preapred to raise this child. There is no way, legally, that she can shut you out of the child's life. Especially, if she expects you to financially support the child.
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    Jul 27, 2007, 11:20 AM
    Something sounds fishy...
    Did anything happen between the two of you?
    Anything at all? Fights, arguments, anything?

    Most women don't just run out on their partner and try to ensure that they will have no rights to the child for no reason.
    Being a single mom is not easy nor is it fun...

    Just trying to get a better perspective of what's going on...
    But if you're the father and will be paying child support, you do have rights to see your child.
    It may have to be supervised depending on if there is a reason she left...

    Good luck to you though.
    I'd like to know what happens.
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