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Samm2011 · Jul 11, 2011, 09:20 AM

This concerns my boyfriend of 15 years and father to our 2 children,Jr.14,Daughter,12.I don't feel I need to go into any detail.I've been feeling like this every single day,since the end of May.I have very supportive family n friends. My question is,my head KNOWS its time to leave. I'm 48 and I've had 2 other breakups in my life that were hard,, but not like this. When I left the other 2,I don't remember feeling this unsure.I knew I did the right thing.Everyone knows I should move on,I lost my brother(best friend) just over 2 years ago.My BF and I went to check on him,, he was on the floor.It was the worse thing that has ever happen to either one of us.Could that somehow be a factor in this 'bond' I have with him? I keep reading and it all makes sense,but,nothing is sinking through for me this time. Thank you for listening.

JudyKayTee · Jul 11, 2011, 09:23 AM

Certainly the loss of your brother, the way you found him, could be a factor - grief and loss go on and on and affect all parts of our life for a very long time.

I realize you don't want to post details BUT if you feel it's time to go, it's time to go.

Also, leaving at 48 is a lot different (and more unsure) than leaving at 28.

joypulv · Jul 15, 2011, 03:22 AM

It does make sense that you are torn, more so than ever before. 15 years, 2 children, and shared tragedy are strong bonds. Probably shared happiness too, and concerns about the children?

We (most of us) do change when older. When I was young I flitted from place to place and abandoned people without giving it a second thought. I don't even recognize that person.