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    Emotionalreck Posts: 1, Reputation: 1
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    Mar 21, 2012, 11:27 AM
    Getting really stressed over my relationship with my boyfriend because of his mum
    1)Most of the things we argue about are because of his mum and I'm worried she's getting in the way of our relationship and recking it and making us argue more. His mum never liked me from day one because I'm older than him and she can't face that her 'little boy is growing up'. She makes up all kinds of exuces so he can't see me like 'he's been ill recently so you need a break from going round hers and relax', when for one we just sit around mine so how can it make him more ill, and 2 he's totally fine in the first place! But worst of all he can't see that his mum hates me and what she's doing and it gets me so stressed out because he agrees with her when she says it will make you more ill and all that crap and when he says that I just feel like saying **** you and it makes me so angry I just cry :'( What should I do cause he won't speak up to her and that will only make it worse:/

    2) I also think I slightly obsessed with seeing my boyfriend which does not help because I do see him a lot nearly everyday as we live down the same road ( many people see this as so lucky) but even when I don't see him for a day because his mum makes some pathetic excuse the last min I get really upset and I can't control my self:( I think its more the fact that its always the last min it gets changed and I can't see him, because I have my mind set on seeing him and then the last min he just suddenly can't and I get so upset. Is this normal? I want to not get like this and be able to be positive ( but it would help if my boyfriend supported me, but its his mum).
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    Mar 21, 2012, 01:08 PM
    Well emotionalwreck, I don't know if you are a cristian, but I am. It soundls like you rely on your boyfriend too much which is not healthy. I would encourage YOU AND YOUR BOYFRIEND to read a book by Joshua Harris called "Boy Meets Girl". It is a Christian book but it offers so much wisdom into the hearts of relationships that I think you may find it extremely helpful.
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    Mar 25, 2012, 11:52 PM
    First of all I really don't find the urge to see your boyfriend everyday to be so obsessive, specially when he live so close(unless of course you go mad if you don't see him for a day). May I know your ages? Does he live with his mom?

    I know it can be really annoying to have your guy's mom to be so controlling. And since he cannot seem to understand your pain, this really makes it worse.

    Find a way to let him know how you feel. Talk to him, explain to him your situation. But make sure you don't make it sound like you are accusing his mom, since that might not go down well with him. He seems to be a momma's boy, so if he ever feels like you are trying to accuse his mother, he won't believe it, and might break it off with you.

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