We are really close to returning her to the breeder. She jumps and bites and really hurts us. She doesn't know how to interact without biting. She is calm one minute, and devil dog the next. She is very smart and very sure of herself.
It sounds as though you've got a lot of issues. And if you intend to return the dog and get another one, you'll have the same issues. Because you need to learn how to become your dog's pack leader. I suggest you begin by studying dog psychology. I recommend Cesar Millan. His techniques are easy to implement and his material easy to find. He also has DVD's where he illustrates the procedures by example. Google
Cesar Millan.
In the meantime, here's what you can begin to do. You say "we", so I'll assume an entire family with kids is involved.
1. Instruct everyone to ignore the dog. NO TOUCH, NO TALK, NO EYE CONTACT.
Every morning when you wake up and every evening when you come home from work and school, ignore the dog until the dog is calm. Instruct everyone to do this.
2. Remember to remain calm. Cultivate a CALM ASSERTIVE ATTITUDE.
If the dog jumps on you, calmly shove the dog off, take a step in the dog's direction and say "NO!" firmly.
Yelling and hysteria just causes confusion and the dog won't get the message.
3. Until the dog learns that you are the pack leaders, do not instigate any games where she can assert her dominance over you by nipping.
4. Take the dog on power walks.
HOW
Here's what to do. First, plan your walk. Plan the time you will take your walk. The best time is after your dog has relieved his bowells. That way your walk won't be interrupted. Plan to take at least one hour. Next, decide your route include in it a place where your dog is permitted to relieve himself. Even though he has already done so, walking moves the bowells and your dog (as well as you) may need to go again.
Ok, now here's the instructions:
1. Observe your dog. When he is calm, get the leash. If your dog is typical of an alpha, he will get overly excited when he notices that you have the leash. DON'T DO ANYTHING. Don't look at him, don't acknowledge him UNTIL HE CALMS DOWN. No matter how long it takes. Go to the kitchen and have a snack if you want. Or read a book. But wait until he calms down.
2. After he calms down call him to you. DO NOT GO TO HIM. He must come to you. He wants to walk and the walk will be his reward for being calm and obedient.
Therefore I repeat again, do not acknowledge him until he calms down and do not go to him. He must come to you.
3. If he gets excited when you call, repeat step 2. Repeat it as often as it takes until your dog is calm.
4. ASSUMING THAT YOUR DOG REMAINS CALM AFTER YOU CALL, and assuming he has come to you when you called. Put the leash on him. If he hasn't come to you with a verbal call alone, you might want to entice him with a bit of food.
4a. For a leash, I prefer a choke collar of some sort. But use whatever is your preference. Only thing is, keep it high on the neck next to his head. Have you ever seen how dog handlers in dog shows place the leash. They do that so that they can have better control of the dog. And the dogs don't seem to mind.
5. Now with the leash on the dog, the dog might get excited again. You must become the strong silent type. Your communication with your dog will be through your leash. SAY NOT ONE WORD. Let me repeat, DO NOT SAY A WORD. Especially do not call the dog's name.
6. Now, observe your dog. He should be used to your waiting by now. But if he isn't and he is excited, simply observe him. Wait until he sits down AND drops his ears. Do not move if he is in an alert position. If his ears are up and he is looking at the door, do not move.
Wait until he is at ease and looking elsewhere. If he lies down that is even better.
7. Now the walk will begin. The alpha dog always leads, therefore you must be the first out the door. If he has beat you to it, return and start from step 6.
Let me give you a few preliminary instructions.
a. Begin to walk and do not stop except to obey traffic laws or UNLESS YOU WANT TO, in order to talk to a neighbor or whatever.
b. Do not let your dog pull you. But if he does, correct him by jerking the leash quickly but firmly to the side. This will throw him off balance.
c. If you must drag your dog, do so.
d. If your dog looks anywhere but at you or forward, correct him by jerking the leash.
e. Do not let your dog sniff the ground, sniff any bushes or trees.
f. Do not let your dog pee. Do not let your dog relieve himself.
8. Take your dog to an area where he can relieve his bowells, let him do so, then resume your walk. If he doesn't relieve his bowells whatever amount of time you have planned and begin to walk back home.
9. The walk back is the same as the walk home. Don't let him pull, sniff any bushes, trees, poles or anything. Don't let him become fixated on anything or anyone. If he does, correct him with a quick jerk of the leash and keep walking.
10. Finally you are near your house. FREQUENTLY, everything breaks down right here. Don't let that happen. If the dog begins to pull you to get home, jerk him to let him know that is unacceptable and stop. Do not proceed until he is calm and submissive again.
11. Now you are at the door. Stop. Do not move. If the dog pulls towards the door correct him. If he knows the sit command, command him to sit. When YOU are good and ready, open the door. You must enter through the door while your dogs sits and waits outside.
12. Invite your dog in the house. Remove his leash and proceed to live in your house.
If the power walk has worked, you will find that your dog has been transformed. She will be submissive to you. The nipping and biting will have disappeared. But if it hasn't, she will now respect your command and it soon will.
An easier version of the power walk is the power bike journey. Everything is the same except you ride a bike and the dog follows beside you. This is easier because the momentum created by the speed of the bike makes it harder to distract the dog. It also tires the dog so that he is more submissive when he gets home.
This is not a one time thing. Do it as often as you can, everyday if possible.
WHY IT WORKS
Because you have proven yourself the leader by showing that you control his behaviour. Including when he relieves himself, whom he meets and what he sniffs and marks.
There are two types of dogs, followers or leaders. Dogs know this well. They are prepared to follow anyone who will lead. But if no one else will lead, they are ready to do it.
If you don't lead them and you don't permit them to lead, they become insecure and all types of behavioral problems ensue.
Now, many people object that if you don't let a dog pee and sniff, you aren't letting them be a dog. But that isn't true. You are simply not letting them be a dominant dog. You are letting them be an obedient and well balanced dog who is confident that YOU his leader will protect him and take care of him.
That is the difference. A dominant dog is sure of himself and UNSURE OF YOU.
A calm and submissive dog is confident that his master will protect and take care of him.
Which type of dog do you want?
I hope that helps.
Sincerely,
De Maria