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What should I do
To make a long story short. For years I have felt like I'm used for sex and laundry for a long time now. My husband on the whole is OK. He used to yell a lot but now has gotten nicer since I left. He makes good money but left me with most of the bills. Now I'm in debt and he helps a little but not a lot. I think he likes to see me broke. Anyway. He thinks my leaving is due to Money. He blames my car for all my bad feelings for the marriage. Not like he never gets me a birthday present or christmas, he doesn't help around the house, he does very little for the kids, never has or will do laundry, dishes or etc... Then he tells me we can refinance the house and get the car on it since it's really his car since his name is first on the loan. (that's the only reason he is going to help me with bills). He thinks I'm bring down his credit. I don't know why I can't talk to him about problems (I think it is because he yelled so much before and makes me feel I can not do anything right). Should I get the house refinance and then leave. I already told him he could keep the house if I got a divorce. Or is that really being mean. But then again, He had boats, trailers, tools, etc... I feel like this is some what owed to me because for years I have more bills than him and he has gotten all his toys. I have nothing but some clothes and he even tells me my car is really his. I also can not get over that for the rest of my life I will be more alone that I am now. We never go anywhere, once in awhile we might go to walmart to get his shampoo because he doesn't like the kind I get. Since I left he follows me and calls me all the time. I don't understand why but I still do laundry and pick up the house when I go there for the kids. Help me I'm blind. Why do I put up with it. Why don't I just leave. Right now I'm staying with my mother. I know I'm in debt but that thanks to him for not helping with the kids and him pushing more and more of the bills off on me. He tells me he will change but in the last month. Nothing has. Why do I do this to myself. Why don't I just leave? Please help...
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