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mary eck · Aug 19, 2008, 07:57 PM

I have been separated from my husband for two years, I've tried dating within those two years of separation,but couldn't find anyone worthwhile. I've been dating this terrific guy for five months we live together as well. Recently we have been on the subject of marriage. But I'm wondering if it's to soon to be talking about marriage I believe that I'm in love with him. And he says that he loves me. Should I take a chance after my dissolution? Or is it to soon?

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tabby08 · Aug 19, 2008, 08:56 PM

I think that if you both really love each other and want to speand your lives together and think that your relationship will last, then I say go for it, if you both think it's the write thing to to then do it, I met this guy three years ago and on valintines day 2005 we had only been seeing each other for 3 weeks and he asked me to marry him and I loved him he was a nice guy and so I said yes and we are still together today and still love each other very much and have a wounderful 3 month old little girl together. So if you really love him like I loved my guy then I think it will work out for you to.

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talaniman · Aug 20, 2008, 06:44 PM

To much, to fast, crash and burn. Sorry but 5 months is a really fast relationship ,if your already living together, and considering marriage. What's the hurry any way, as you just left one guy and it didn't work, and you have another already. Your still strangers in my book, and have skipped the whole have fun getting to know each other stage. How long have you been living together, and again what's the hurry??

Seems to me, your past experience would make you more cautious.

tabby08 · Aug 20, 2008, 09:22 PM

We have been living together since valintines day 2005 as after he asked me to marry him I asked him would he like to move in with me. I was not in a hurry to get married and we got married in Jan 06 and I don't think that by him asking me to marry him took all the fun out of getting to know each other as we had a great time getting to know each other after that we would go out, go on holidays go out for dinner all those things and I tink even though they ask us to marry them, to me marriage means nothing it dose not change you or him if you love each other then that's all that matters and when they ask us to marry them it dose not mean that you have to get married start away, one of my friends her partner asked her to marry him and she said yes and its been 2 years and they are still not married or set a date as they love each other and are like me and think that marriage means nothing it just another word to her.

Ivory0921 · Aug 22, 2008, 03:57 PM

It is way too soon. Maybe you could have a couple more months or years where in you could keep discussing marriage - but don't do it just yet. I've had longer relationships which eventually found a way to slowly wither or go downhill after a year or so. Just take it easy, enjoy things as they are.

Ash123 · Aug 22, 2008, 04:22 PM

That is good news!

You already have more than most people on here...

So, now what? Keep going like you are. Make it clear you are 100% committed and get through a bit more life challenges, as time goes by. If you all are "engaged to be engaged" to each other a year from now I think you can feel a lot more secure about life decisions.

Glad it's been a great 5 months. If you hang in there you can see how you both approach money, family, life plans, culture etc... and go from there.

Tell him you are excited and there's no need to rush. You are not going anywhere.

Is there a rush for kids due to your ages or any other protocol that's hurrying you?