I agree with Artlady that your toddler could have his small bed in your room for the time being, with your daughter having her own room. As an alternative, you could divide the larger bedroom either for yourself and your toddler, or for the two kids.
As for court, if the issue arises I would explain that it is temporary and be prepared with figures for the difference in cost to rent a three bedroom. The figure for a three bedroom should be used in your request for child support. If you can get spousal maintenance, take it... it will help you until you have a new job.
As a separate issue, I personally feel it can be disruptive to a small child to change homes so often. You might want to ask for full physical custody with your ex paying you child support - he would perhaps see the child for a few hours during the week, and have him for overnights on alternating weekends. This would allow your child to wake up in the same home every week day and establish a routine with preschool or childcare, and then school when he's older.
I divorced when my son was 6 and we explored the idea of shared, equal physical custody with nobody paying child support but in the end it was too hard for our son - he never had his stuff at the right house, and was constantly going through this dramatic transition from one house to another. It was much easier for him to have my home as his primary residence, wake up there every school day, and visit his dad's house on weekends. In the interim, his dad came to his sporting events and had him for dinner and playtime two nights each week, which also gave me some time to go to the store, get a haircut, work on resumes or whatever I could not do with a little boy needing my attention.
With the addition of child support to your budget, perhaps you could afford a larger apartment as well.
Talk to your divorce attorney about how to address this with the court.
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