Ask Experts Questions for FREE Help !
Ask
    isssues's Avatar
    isssues Posts: 1, Reputation: 1
    New Member
     
    #1

    Feb 17, 2007, 09:25 AM
    Is it wrong?
    ... to date a guy a hell of a lot thinner than you, baring in mind I am only a size 12 in clothes and usually size 10 jeans. (he is really thin) I know its not necessarily wrong I phrased that incorrectly but would you feel ashamed or embarrassed?
    Curlyben's Avatar
    Curlyben Posts: 18,514, Reputation: 1860
    BossMan
     
    #2

    Feb 17, 2007, 09:31 AM
    Now WHY should it be wrong.
    I can see nothng wrong with what you say.
    Thin, fat, short, tall, so what!!

    Ps for everyone else, these are UK cloth sizes ;)
    princess-girl's Avatar
    princess-girl Posts: 2, Reputation: 0
    New Member
     
    #3

    Feb 17, 2007, 09:36 AM
    I think its wrong to do that. You shouldn't do that in front of people. If you do people won't like you!

    You really shouldn't make fun of people. You know if you do people won't like you!
    valinors_sorrow's Avatar
    valinors_sorrow Posts: 2,927, Reputation: 653
    I regard all beings mostly by their consciousness and little else
     
    #4

    Feb 17, 2007, 09:46 AM
    I think I get what you are saying here-- its rather like how surprised people were when Julia Roberts hooked up with Lyle Lovett. Looks-wise, that is a big mismatch. I did something similar in high school dating a very physically "different" guy and what I said to the first person who teased about that apparently stung bad enough to assure me that if anything more was to be said, it would be behind the backs of both of us or so I found myself hoping. He was an incredible guy. What can I say? Some people get that the deeper stuff matters faster than others.
    valinors_sorrow's Avatar
    valinors_sorrow Posts: 2,927, Reputation: 653
    I regard all beings mostly by their consciousness and little else
     
    #5

    Feb 17, 2007, 09:54 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by isssues
    im afraid i don't really understand where you are coming from? dont get me wrong, thanks for your post i really appreciate it but i don't see your point, do you agree or disagree? sorry
    Now I am confused too LOL because you appear to disagree with what I said but then you say you don't understand what it is I said? :confused:

    I was saying I agreed with Ben, surface stuff shouldn't matter.
    People should feel free to do as they please. I did and I am sticking up for others doing likewise. I agree with you. :p

    PS - A small tip about how to use features here? If you don't understand something someone posts, you can always "qoute user" like I did here and ask them about it. When you rate an answer as not useful or something you disagree with, it gives a negative point, likewise helpful or agreeing with gives a positive point. It can be kind of hard on people to take a negative point over not being understood. No worries about it with me but I just wanted you to know, okay?
    kristynn's Avatar
    kristynn Posts: 502, Reputation: 66
    Senior Member
     
    #6

    Feb 17, 2007, 11:16 AM
    Honestly, I would feel "weird" somehow...
    Though, I wish it would be different! This world is too much into appearance and obviously there's nothing we can really change about it, don't we? Proof: you're asking this question concerning appearance.

    I don't say it's something wrong with it -- no, no! At all. It depends on you two - how you two feel when you're together despite of what the other people may think. If you feel embarrassed and really can't get used to it and can't overcome such feeling, maybe it's not what you really want, is it? Same goes for your partner.

    However, if you're very well together and happy with each other, the rest shouldn't matter!
    letmetellu's Avatar
    letmetellu Posts: 3,151, Reputation: 317
    Ultra Member
     
    #7

    Feb 17, 2007, 11:36 AM
    I am not sure how old you are but I have a feeling that you are putting too much emphasis on how things would look to others. Don't be like so many of the teens of today and let your peers run you life. If you like the guy then don't pay any attention to what others say. Also another thing if you are in the age of 14 or 15, in another year this bean pole of a guy may be the buff guy of the school, guys can really change in one year, especially if he knows a girl likes him. One more thing, in a couple of months you may not like this guy anymore and be interested in one even thinner... Good Luck to you and go and enjoy your life isssuses, you just get one chance.
    unsure_alert's Avatar
    unsure_alert Posts: 6, Reputation: 3
    New Member
     
    #8

    Feb 18, 2007, 11:00 AM
    No, personality means everything, looks mean nothing. If your happy together there's nothing wrong with it. I get the impression you might be thinking well what is the lad thinking, but if he likes you then he obviously isn't bothered is he? Go for it, all the best! But him lots of sweets and chocolates if your worried! Lol
    Nosnosna's Avatar
    Nosnosna Posts: 434, Reputation: 103
    Full Member
     
    #9

    Feb 18, 2007, 11:24 AM
    There's nothing wrong with it. Shame or embarrassment don't really mean anything is wrong, just that something seems odd to you. Odd isn't a bad thing, though.

    If it bothers you, it bothers you. Most of us have at least one thing that bothers us that is at least somewhat irrational, so at least you're not alone :)

Not your question? Ask your question View similar questions

 

Question Tools Search this Question
Search this Question:

Advanced Search


Check out some similar questions!

Am I wrong? [ 13 Answers ]

I had a little girl a couple of years ago with my ex-husband. I am now currently remarried and my husband has taken on a wonderful father role. My daughter’s biological father hasn’t been in the picture for over 3 years. He hasn’t had contact with us in over 2 years. I have not contacted his...

Did I do something wrong? [ 12 Answers ]

I have a boyfriend, who used to be my ex, and now I don't know how I feel about him anymore. Its like he screwed up so many times by lying and doing stupid things that now he is trying to change and I just can't trust him anymore. Ive liked the same person for 3 and haft years now, we were in...

Dr.wrong? [ 19 Answers ]

I've been on Ridolin for about a year now. Everything was fine. I went to all of my appointments, never canceled a single one. Three weeks ago my doctor decided that I needed to go to a psychologist ( the same one that diagnosed me with ADHD) and also have a psych evaluation done otherwise I could...

What went so wrong? [ 5 Answers ]

Hi, I'd like anyone's opinion/advice on my situation.Well I can't really say I have a situation anymore, but... I lived in America for 1 1/2 years and I returned home to the UK. I didn't want to it - was due to immigration/my job. At the time I had the most lovely boyfriend and we had been going...

Anything wrong with me? [ 3 Answers ]

I'v had a boyfriend before, but only one. And when I was with him it was good. We never did much, like kissing or hugging. Eventually we did. At first I was fine with it. Then he invited me to his birthday party. Of course I was nervous so I invited a friend along. At the party the kissing became...


View more questions Search