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pmlbyrs · Mar 13, 2008, 11:01 AM

I have been going out with this guy for 2 years. We have know each other much longer than that and have become close to each others families as well. After high school was over he decided to go to the marines the year after graduation and I was going to college. For the past month before the breakup he started hanging out with the guys on my nights off work to lift and workout. Yes, I got mad because I knew he was leaving for boot camp and wanted to be with him. Maybe it is all my fault for I couldn't help it. He then broke it off and told me that this was not going to work. It has been 5 weeks and the night before he left I went to say goodbye to him. We kissed and he told me that he still loved me and cared about me a lot. If you love someone so much like I love him how can he do this. I went through the not eating and sleeping and crying, and still all I think about it him. He has always been very honest and open with me and has never lied to me as well. His friends tell me that it is over and he will never take me back again. But yet he still loves me and I believe that. Do I move on with my life or what. I need help from the outside and people that do not know us. Please help.

JBeaucaire · Mar 13, 2008, 11:59 AM

He probably does "love" you, whatever that's worth. He also let you go. The fact that you think those two things can't occur together is the problem.

His life is diverging from yours and he's being honest about it. It's not about your feelings for one another, it's about real life. Pay attention when people talk with their actions, it's much more reliable than their words.

Words - "I love you"
Action - "We're breaking up"

The action wins every time. You're broken up, he did/does care but knows he's not interested in a long distance relationship. So that's the end of it.

Remember him well, pray for his safety, and start dating other people again... lots of them.

bigsmile · Mar 18, 2008, 03:10 PM

Hi... sometimes people does something's hard to understand. You shouldn't think that its not an attitude of someone who loves you, just don't try to understand. You were really closed, you know him very well, but you're not he, so maybe you'll never understand his point of view. The best you got do is tell him about your good feelings, don't ask him why he's doing this or that... just let him know you're with him, but let him know you won't be always waiting for his back. I know it's hard, I'm passing by a break up too. And if you believe in your love, don't ask, don't do, don't try anythings. Things will be better if you put a smile on your face. Believe me

skittlefrittle · Jul 9, 2008, 04:49 PM

Just be there for him when he gets back from boot camp and show him that you are strong and can live without him. If he is going to be in the services he needs to know you aren't going to fall apart becaue he isn't with you 24/7. These types of guys need a strong independent girl. If that's not you, you will be miserable if he goes on leave.