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    Lizzabee87 Posts: 2, Reputation: 1
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    Jul 2, 2010, 12:41 PM
    Will he call after a first date if we already planned on a second?
    Okay, this is going to sound ridiculous... I had a great first date with this guy I met online and previous to this date we had been talking for a month online. We met up and spent 10 hours together, we got lunch, played mini golf, rented some movies and made out a lot. During making out he pulls away and goes "I'm going to see you again right?" and I go "yeah, mmhmm" and he and I start kissing again and he goes "and you're not just saying that right?" and I made it clear after that that I would like to see him again and we decided on a second date,which is taking place on Monday.

    Well that was two days ago, our first date, and I haven't heard from him. I'm curious if he'll call when Monday (our second date) gets closer or if its weird that he hadn't contacted me at all since our first date.

    I've never felt so much chemistry with a guy before. He said he thought the date went extremely well and we kissed goodnight and he made it clear he wants to see me again. I'm just confused at the lack of calls/texts/emails lol. Is that normal?
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    redhed35 Posts: 4,221, Reputation: 1910
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    Jul 2, 2010, 12:48 PM

    Mostly he may be getting on with his life and may not ring until closer to Monday,he may be on other dates,or just thinks he has only just met you and is not taking it too seriously (which is all good news for you)

    Why?

    Because,it would mean,he is not obsessive,he has other interests in his life,and that he is taking his time.

    Even he he does not call,you had a good time,all went well so move on and keep dating,you have to kiss a lot of frogs to find your prince.
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    Jul 2, 2010, 12:57 PM

    Just one other thing,don't call him,you may get different advice on this,in fact I'm sure of it,but I've always been of a mind,if a guy wants you,he will call,if he's interested he will call.

    Keep in mind,he may be dating other women and have had similar great dates.

    That's not a bad reflection on you or him,in fact I would advice you to have lots of dates,if one starts to become serious,then its time to talk about if you are going to be in a relationship.

    Dating is all about getting to know the person BEFORE the relationship.
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    Devorameira Posts: 2,461, Reputation: 981
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    Jul 2, 2010, 01:50 PM

    Relax - he may just be busy.

    Don't call him or even mention it to him because he may feel pressured if you do (and that could run him off).

    Remember - Just because you go on a date shouldn't mean that he has to call ever day or two. You don't even have a relationship yet, so just sit back and let it develop.
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    Jul 2, 2010, 01:55 PM

    If he wants to see you, he will find a way to see you on Monday. No need to over-think things.

    If you want to talk to him, then give him a ring yourself. Why does he have to do all the initiating?
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    Jul 4, 2010, 07:29 AM

    You may as well wait until Monday and see what happens. I know your excited, but relax. Over thinking is not good.
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