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    snow12345 Posts: 9, Reputation: 1
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    Dec 13, 2010, 07:19 AM
    Why would man do that?
    Threads merged, please keep all questions regarding the same issue in the same thread.

    I met man month. And next time when met him he took out McDonalds etc and was really sweet, couple hours we were kissing and cuddling.

    He was saying how past girlfriends have messed him about in past and cheated on him and how he doesn't like men who use women. He says his really busy with work so ain't seen him month. But we text each other everyday still and phones me now and again even when his at work. He was texting me saying he really likes me and if I go out with him, and he said Thursday he be free.

    Today I was in town and I saw him outside women's cl-others shop like he was waiting for someone. He didn't see me. I text him half hour ago saying did you have nice time in town. He text back saying he was in town and I should gone up to him and say hi and spent time with me ins-ted his mates. And as for him be-in out side women's shop he said that maybe he looking for earring.
    But he had day off on Sunday and always saying his busy and miss me but he didn't tell me. But yet still its all these sweet text and him saying hopefully I c u this week. And he says he does really like me and that he is looking for relationship but wouldn't be able to c me often cause he be busy.

    But now if don't text him he won't text back at least couple days later. When I phoned him just picked up phone and hung up after said hello. I text him back saying thanks for hint and why bother send mixed signals saying like me and miss me etc if going be like this. I deleted his number etc and like I did text him saying if with seeing someone else you shouldn't be sending me mixed signals etc and he got really angry started sending me texting saying keep on accusing me and can't be dealing with that, am not looking for girlfriend like that. I phoned him and he was still pissed and said I am busy and I don't always have my car. And that over past couple days I been accusing him cheating. But we patched things up and he said text me later after work and ill text back.I text him he text me back saying everything OK between us I guess. After that nevre heard from him again next day. I really like him allot is me with problem or is he playing mind games
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    #2

    Dec 13, 2010, 08:24 AM

    Sounds like you're both playing mind games with each other. If you want to see each other, then set a date. If one of you can't commit to a specific day after 1 month, then the future doesn't look very bright for both of you.
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    Dec 13, 2010, 10:39 AM
    Was it all my fault or did he like me?
    This is bad, but a man rang me text me out blue saying he found my number on old sim card. Again out blue couple days later he text me saying he had problem and he needed girl's opinion. He was saying how girl he has known for years loves him but he doesn't love her back and how his best friend loves her. I gave him some advice.
    A Couple days later I broke up with a man I was seeing for month and don't know why but I text him telling him and he phoned me and we on phone for couple hours. I told him and he was telling me how girls his been out with saty with him for few months then cheat on him, and how he really like to meet someone desent for a change. Afterwards he telling me how both older brothers were in prison and how never had anyone to look up too.

    Again mad but we desided meet up couple days later, earlier on in day he sent me picture message of him. He took me out later in his car he juist took me to Mcdonalds, and after we were just chatting. He kept on looking nervous and stumbling his words, but couple hours later we did have a kiss. Then droped me back home.

    Now for few weeks he was texting me everyday, and when he phone it was for good 30mins and he asked me out on date, he admitted that he is really busy with work as its approaching christmas. He was always texting saying I really like you and miss you and your so understanding in comparison to other girls.
    Now phone calls become rare and text unless I text him first, so left it for couple of days, no texts no calls, after couple I don't know how I text him saying hi isn't heard from you in ages and text back saying I was wondering same thing.

    It been over 3 weeks and hadn't seen him he was texting me saying he really likes me and if I go out with him, and he said Thursday he be free.

    Today I was in town and I saw him outside women's cl-others shop like he was waiting for someone. He didn't see me. I text him half hour ago saying did you have nice time in town. He text back saying he was in town and I should gone up to him and say hi and spent time with me ins-ted his mates. And as for him be-in out side women's shop he said that maybe he looking for earring.
    But he had day off on Sunday and always saying his busy and miss me but he didn't tell me. But yet still its all these sweet text and him saying hopefully I c u this week. And he says he does really like me and that he is looking for relationship but wouldn't be able to c me often cause he be busy.

    But now if don't text him he won't text back at least couple days later. When I phoned him just picked up phone and hung up after said hello. I text him back saying thanks for hint and why bother send mixed signals saying like me and miss me etc if going be like this. I deleted his number etc and like I did text him saying if with seeing someone else you shouldn't be sending me mixed signals etc and he got really angry started sending me texting saying keep on accusing me and can't be dealing with that, am not looking for girlfriend like that. I phoned him and he was still pissed and said I am busy and I don't always have my car. And that over past couple days I been accusing him cheating. Which I wasn't it wa more case of you said you was really busy so how come you in town. But we patched things up and he said text me later after work and ill text back. I really like him allot is me with problem or is he playing mind games
    Afterwards I did text him and he quickly text back saying I've got to get up early for work. I know should have but I text him saying hi and he never replied so after couple days I just text saying forget you and your games.

    We both 22 years old
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    Dec 13, 2010, 10:54 AM

    He found your number on an old sim card?

    What!

    A complete stranger calls you with a cock and bull story and you meet up with him?

    Again what!!

    Just take astep back from this situation for a minute and think rationally about what's going on,does any of it make sense to you? Does everything add up the way it should?

    Not from what you have written.

    Stop texting,stop all contact and thank your lucky stars you did not end up in the boot of his car.

    I understand that you like him but there are safer ways to meet a guy.

    Please be careful with old sim cards and other personal information.
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    Dec 13, 2010, 11:19 AM
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    I was upset over me boyfrind spliting up so I wasn't think wisely
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    Dec 13, 2010, 02:40 PM

    Redhead35 is right about protecting your personal information. You need to be careful.

    I would be suspicious that he's he's got a girlfriend, may even be married. Why else would he take so long to respond and hang up when you call? He's obviously with someone else. If I were you I'd back away from this situation.
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    Dec 14, 2010, 10:30 AM
    this really creepying me out what is his or their motive
    This is really creepy?
    OK I this man rang me out blue month back saying he found my number on old sim card, we got talking and met up, Again mad he took McDonald's and didn't have sex but did kiss. Now he says his security guard and really busy so haven't seen him in ages but always texting say miss you I like you etc.
    now man called couple days before first man in morning and didn't speak to him much. But few weeks later I called 1st man and I swear the man who called me in morning answered and said something, I didn't hear what he said.
    now at present this man called me in morning says same info as first man, same name job etc
    but it isn't same man totally different voice, tone and pitch. And when just called me he first said I gave him my number, rubbish cause I didn't then said I didn't know how I got your number and didn't know who this man is who is calling you they said I love you for life. CREEPY. The original man hasn't text back since he last text me earlier saying he see daytime sum time to day and he bring a mate.

    I know its confusing but what hell I KNOW ITS IS NOT SAME PEOPLE, DO THEY KNOW EACH OTHER AND THIS SOME SICK JOKE, CAUSE REALLY CREEPY. 2 men claiming they didn't know each other but share same personal information, came across my number in phone by random, this man been texting and ringing me for hours over month. And know their not same people should change my number. What hell is mentally sick cause really creepy, what hell were they up to
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    Dec 14, 2010, 11:19 AM

    I honestly cannot make any sense of this post.

    Change your number if you're afraid.
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    Dec 14, 2010, 11:24 AM
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    Sorry
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    Dec 14, 2010, 12:50 PM
    I don't really understand the situation, but yeah. You should change your number.
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    Dec 14, 2010, 03:43 PM
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    End the confusion by being proactive. I think you need to get a new phone number. Get rid of any and all contact information this (these) man. Stop trying to have a relationship with the 'first' man if you still are. Don't call back someone who says he got your phone number from an 'old sim card'.

    Don't look for attention from a stranger. There are better and safer ways to meet someone. Take care of yourself and be careful.
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    Dec 16, 2010, 08:29 PM
    I'd respond in a helpful manner, but I honestly can't decipher what you're trying to get across. Just go with the posted answer I suppose.
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    Dec 17, 2010, 07:44 AM

    I think you've ran him off by being possessive from the beginning. It appears that you really haven't even officially dated, so why would you think you have any right to question him on any activities? Really, it's almost like stalking!

    You need to leave him alone and move on.
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    Dec 21, 2010, 03:52 PM

    Sorry you don't agree with my advice, but it is my own opinion. In the future, handle your comments correctly as part of the discussion and don't pass out bad ratings simply because you didn't hear what you wanted to hear.

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