One of the great JOYS you have to look forward to
is when you do
fall in love equally with someone. The one-way stuff is common and normal and not the least bit surprising or problematic. But when you DOES happen it will be so sweet.
Meanwhile, when it doesn't happen/hasn't happened, that does not mean anything is wrong.
Originally Posted by david123456
The problem is your expectations. They aren't reasonable.
Ask a dog why it's not a cat. Go ahead. I'll wait.
You see the problem? Not only can the dog NOT talk so you can't get an answer, even if he could answer there is no meaningful answer to questions like "why isn't this thing different than it is?"
So, manage your expectations. Understand NOW that the hunt for enduring love is a HUNT. No one venture is guaranteed and to disparage yourself or some girl you've dated because it's not meant to be is not only needlessly hurtful, it's plain wrong.
You know... this world is FULL of failed relationships that were forced to continue. THAT'S the real tragedy in life, when you two could part as friendly, caring people not meant "to be" instead of one or both of you desperately trying to prolong it... possibly forever... thus insuring the "real love" waiting out there for you on a future hunt goes undiscovered.
Don't be a tragedy. Be pragmatic. The only problem here is that you're not paying attention to what may be simple truths and preparing yourself for the next hunt.