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    coastbeachbum Posts: 2, Reputation: 1
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    Feb 19, 2007, 05:40 PM
    Why cant she make up her mind
    So, I've been dating this girl for about a year.
    We seem to be more off than on as of late. I love her very much, but she keeps pulling me
    Back into this ordeal. She came over on valentines day brought me a card and flowers after telling me she wanted us to go our separate ways. I did not know how to take it, every time I say its enough and try to start moving on and getting over the heart break she seems to find another way to give me hope that things can work out, I want them to but I keep getting mixed signals one day its on and the next it off. What can I do to stop this cycle of hurt that keeps slapping me in the face.
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    Feb 19, 2007, 05:48 PM
    It's probably not what you want to hear, but...

    End it. As long as there's something for her to decide about, she's not going to be able to make a decision. You have to do that for her, and the only decision you can make for her in that regard is the decision to end it.

    Be nice, but be firm. And stand by the decision... you'll want to go into no contact mode to avoid getting pulled back in again.
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    #3

    Feb 19, 2007, 05:56 PM
    I concur and could not have said that any better (but look at me trying anyway LOL).
    Close the door and keep going -- it's the only way out of the madness.
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    Feb 19, 2007, 06:00 PM
    You're the only one that can stop it. You're the one that has let this behaviour go on and on. If you want it to end, you need to end it with her for good. Have you ever communicated this with her at all? If you have not well it is time for a heart to heart and then decide what your going to do. Good luck.


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    Feb 19, 2007, 07:53 PM
    You should probably end it. If not, it would go on and on forever...

    She probably doesn't realize what she's doing to you.

    If she can't make up her mind, you can!
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    Feb 19, 2007, 08:20 PM
    I'll make it unanimous , you should definitely end this emotional roller coaster as she is not being fair or considerate for whatever reason.
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    Feb 19, 2007, 08:28 PM
    We teach people to treat us well or poorly by that which we either accept or refuse. Its really as simple as that. There are two people in the transaction -- the one selling the crap and the one buying it. When you get out of the crap business all together (neither tolerate it nor dish it out) that's when it gets interested! LOL
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    Feb 20, 2007, 11:33 AM
    Thanks guys, for the help. I new what needed to happen all along. I just didn't want to admit it.

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