For the past few weeks my boyfriend hasn't been showing me any affection. Whenever I try to hold his hand or touch him he'll push my hand away and when I try to kiss him, he'd give me short little kisses (and usually no kisses at all) not like when we first started dating and everything was passionate.

I've tried talking to him about it, because it really bothers me, and he usually just shrugs it off or tells me I'm being over emotional... But he really doesn't realize how much this bothers me. We also don't have any sexual contact any more because he always finds a way to separate himself from me when I initiate it and gets angry when I bring the topic up. And when it does happen he will get dressed immediately afterwards and go check his Facebook or do his thing. None of this cuddling bull crap.

He does say he loves me, and I honestly think he does, I just don't get why he's being so distant all of a sudden when before we used to hang out and talk, and laugh about everything and I could show affection without him looking at me like I'm no longer desirable. I'm not even sure if the look is meant to be undesirable but he has this look in his eyes that he just doesn't want to be around me and when I speak he's just so abrupt and gnarly in his response. This has only been for about 3 weeks now, but I can't seem to figure out why he changed so much. He used to be quite literally the best boyfriend on earth. What does all this mean, why is he acting like this and how can I get this to stop.

How long have you two been dating and how old are the two of you?

It means the passion and lust have cooled and the honeymoon is over and the work has begun.

Its always hot and heavy in the beginning. He really hasn't started getting distant I don't think, its just the real him is emerging and you no longer see each other just through intense emotional feeling of LUST.

Instead of missing the lust (which we see as passion and physical affection), see if you can build something that benefits you both outside the bedroom.

Hey!

I'm genuinely sorry to hear about this.
It sounds like your relationships drying out a bit. Don't worry though! I have a few tips for you and a few solutions.

Firstly though, do you think you might have forgotten something? Like his birthday or even something smaller? He could be upset about that. Or maybe, he's seen you hangimg around with a few guy mates of yours? Because some guys can get pretty jealous.
Try and see if it's any of those reasons. Maybe he's just not in the mood?

A few tips to help you brighten up your relationship are:
- Make an effort to look good when you're around him.
- Treat him as if he's the most imporant guy in your life (which is what it sounds like).
- If there's a football match on or a certain show he likes, even if you don't like it, stay and watch it with him and don't make a fuss.
- Always take time out to compliment him as well! Don't wait for him to tell you that you look great, tell him he looks amazing.
- Call him and make him feel special.
- Don't be too clingy; give him some freedom to go out with his mates etc.

Hope that helped & good luck!
Wishing you all the best in your relationship.

I don't agree with this idea of making yourself prettier and facilitating more football and whatever else to win him over in this situation. His actions are passive aggressive and more appropriately, he should just tell you what is going on. This one is on him and you can't fix it.

My guess is he wants out of the relationship but doesn't want to hurt your feelings. Ask for the truth and if you can't get it, break up with him.

I don't like putting arbitrary conditions on relationships but an expectation of honesty and reasonable communication is not arbitrary.

If he can't at least tell you what the problem is, who needs this. A man does not treat you this way because you don't watch football or your hair isn't pretty.
It sounds to me like he has found someone else and does not have the guts to tell you so he treats you like crap. Fixing yourself up and pretending you like sports is not going to change that. If he won't talk to you and he knows how you feel and does not even try, leave him.

One particular thing we learn in time as we get to know our partners better is that we humans have our own life rhythm that wans and ebbs through out the year which makes us more or less compatible through out the years.

Think of it as male PMS or just seasonal behavior. That's why I have always held that paying attention and dealing accordingly through that understanding is a lot more positive than taking things so personally you make it about YOU, and start feeding your own fears and insecurities, and get distracted from the real issues.

Its like leaving a guy alone on Sunday to watch football or don't nag about his fishing trip. It is in this understanding we learn about our partners and devise ways to not only learn how to communicate and when best to communicate but also to listen. Entertain the idea that distant may mean preoccupied, and when you need that wet sloppy kiss, he may be thinking of biting his hook.

Bottom line, don't make it about you without paying better attention to other things that may be going on that you may have missed. Changes in personal interaction, or expression is but a signal for the proper adjustments to be identified and implemented.

You may be out of tune for now, but likely will be back in tune so don't get carried away on those days you are out of tune. Paying attention works better than a maid outfit, especially when a guys is wrapped up and distracted himself. We all have down periods and we hope the partner understands, as there is no instant quick fix answer as its more like a work in process and I emphasize the work part.

Some times reality changes US and we don't even know it, or why we feel the way we do. For darn sure we cannot control or change our partners, just ourselves and the way we deal with whatever life throws at us.